At lunch time today DH got a phonecall from his mother.
"Your dad has had a fall, can you come around and help me?"
So of course DH races around to his parents house (2 streets away).
When he got there he found FIL sat ON THE FLOOR propped up against a chair.
"How long has he been like this?"
"Since 2 o'clock".
DH looks as his watch confused...
"what are you on about, its only 1 o'clock now..."
MIL looks at him as if he's stupid...
"No! 2am, it happened last night!".
So basically what had happened is FIL 'had a fall" ... read FELL DOWN THE STAIRS at 11pm. MIL DRAGGED HIM from the bottom of the stairs into the living room and finally got him there at 2am.
She then propped him up against the chair and WENT TO BED!!!
Next morning she got up, he's obviously still sat on the floor...she got him a drink and then went out to do her shopping. DH actually saw her doing her shopping on her scooter that day but obviously didn't think much of it.
She got home at 11am, asked FIL if he could move yet, he said no and so finally at 12.30pm she decided to phone DH.
Now I don't care what anyone says, this is NOT the behaviour of a normal person, is it?
He's now in hospital and will be for the foreseeable future. The most annoying bit about it is that they have a panic button which they can press which goes straight through to A&E.
Picoult, I can understand why you're angry. Your poor FIL. I'd be perhaps concerned about your MIL's state of mind(sorry if that sounds offensive, but felt I had to ask). Have there been any other examples recently of her acting in an irrational way?
I'm angry because she's always been so selfish, its actually hard to distinguish between her usual selfish behaviour and the behaviour of someone 'not quite right'. For instance DH told her he would pick her up tomorow morning and take her to see FIL, she pulled a face and said "but I have bingo on a thursday morning!"
She leaves FIL alone all christmas day to go out for a meal with her daughter (who hates fil).
And when the social services mentioned when he would be likely to come home she said "oh, I hope its not a monday because thats when I get my hair done..."
I spoke to a social worker today who actually said they were concerned she was losing her mind as well as FIL because they've never known anyone act like she has in this situation.
Spent so long trying to work out how to word that sensitively that lots of other people posted in the meantime - mainly saying the same thing. It's not an easy thing to face up to but it sounds like you and DH have to consider the possiblity.
A couple of years before FIL died he had a fall. MIL, who is disabled and no way could lift him, managed to sit him up and went to bed. Next day he still couldn't move so eventually she phoned dp. Apparently FIL had told her he didn't want anyone to help and he'd get up when he was ready. She'd agreed because she hates people in the house.
We all thought the pair of them were barking. She still is.