OK, I think I just need to vent here.
The background is that having been with my partner for 10years (married 1), my PIL never liked me and would refuse to meet me (I am muslim and he is hindu and they had to move from Pakistan to Spain because of Muslims, for which I am obviously personally responsible). I've never quite got over this and then to make it worse, they are not all that nice people. Comments from her in the past have included 'Farrah's friends are half this and half that and then they marry white people (!!!)' , 'Your hair doesn't look nice like that, why don't you straighten it', 'why do you have no relatives coming to the wedding, don't they care?' etc. etc. not withstanding the whole 'you should be a lot thinner / prettier' thing.
Sooo... although am going to Gran Canaria to see them, I wanted to stay in a hotel, so we're not with them 24/7. Yesterday, DH's parents called and had a huge go at us for not wanting to stay in their house and said that we're deeply offending them and I don't think their place is good enough (!) etc. When I stayed before (before we were married) I wasn't allowed to darken the doors, so it seems so hypocritical that now we're going to pretend that they've always liked me. I am a grudge bearer, I'm afraid.
And also, being pregnant, I feel queasy and need to go to the loo lots etc. and I just don't feel comfortable doing that in their house. It's a tiny flat and you can hear everything that goes on in one room to another.
They make everything into such a big thing - all I wanted was some privacy! Am I over-reacting? I should be grateful for all the good things in my life, I know...
Need some guidance - am probably being unreasonable, so just tell em so gently if that's the case.
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farrah · 01/10/2008 13:08
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