I am not really looking for a response. I know I will just feel better ranting for a few minutes.
We were trying (again) to see if we could make things work after his affair. He had promised (again) not to contact her but told me last night, when questioned, that he had taken her for lunch just 2 weeks ago when he was in her country. He hadn't offered this info - yet again I had to question him. So, she is more fun than me and they can go out whenever they want (guess what?? She has no dc!)
He doesn't really want to be married to me anymore but he still wants things to carry on as normal in the house, for the dc's sake. So he thinks I will still be cooking and cleaning for him
Well (as Custy so eloquently put in an earlier thread) Fuck Him and the Horse he Rode in on!!
You know - I am feeling slightly better already! Thank You
Tosser. Doesn't he realise it's his actions which have made woman A (ie you) miserable and no fun (not that I'm saying you are!) and that his rotten personality will have the same effect on woman B sooner or later?
Hope you sort things to your satisfaction. Sounds like you've still got spirit, well done, mke sure you keep it.
My h said his 24 yr old ow made him realise what a relationship should be like!!!!
Unfortunately for him she didn't realise what a great relationship they had and dumped him a couple of months ago!!
I think my h thinks things will carry on as normal at home aswell, he wants to have his nice family time and be cooked for and cleaned up after and then go out and fuck around with no guilt cos we're not together anymore.
Stirling, rant away, the more i think about things the angrier i get so its good to have an outlet, prevents a murder!!
my friend had a similiar scenario about 2 years ago, after she found out about the affair he wanted to stay around
after about 4 months of him staying in the house and being an utter wanker she finally flung him out,
she has now moved towns (To where she always wanted to be), has a better job, better (but smaller) house, a lovely new man, and best of all no him. Her confidence has soared, he was always criticising her and dragging her down, he hardly did any housework or childcare so no change there and all in all she is a MUCH happier bunny.
I was with her nearly everyday whilst they were living in limbo, so you have my ever sympathy, I had a glimse of the pain you must be in, poor you
Thanks all - Yes Noonki, the living in limbo is hell - it is so hard to describe to someone - you just want a clearer view of your future but that is so hard when you are with someone who doesn't know what they want.
Hoochie - it is important to try to stay together for the dc but I have never believed in staying with somoeone just for the dc - I grew up with my Mum in a shit marriage and it was awful, she really should have walked away when we were little but she thought she was doing the right thing.
I just feel, very sadly, that I have now recreated that past, and my dc will also have an upset childhood. No matter what anyone says, I feel a failure for that.