sorry if I have mentioned this before, i can't remember sorry! I probably didn't give the whole story anyway!
My MIL and I have never had a good relationship but we were at least civil to each other iykwim and i did a lot of tongue biting in the 11 years i have been with DH but now I have a nearly 8 month old dd and she's become so much worse.
she will turn up unnannounced 3 or 4 times a week, especially at dd's bed time and expect to come in, get a cuppa etc. She wanted to take dd abroad without us when she was only 2 months old and went into a huge huff when i refused, she expects us to spend our entire weekend with her (I'm now back at work full time) and is offended that my own mother watches dd during the week (MIL also works full time!), she does the exact opposite of what I want with dd - giving her solids when she was only 3 months etc and every time she watched dd I would return to find her screaming so she hasn't watched dd for about 3 months now, and she always makes funm of my cooking and cleaning skills and talks about how her other DIL is wonderful with my daughter but never says that to me and i'm her mother so it really hurts
before dd was born, my sis got engaged and the wedding is at xmas, i was going to let MIL watch dd but now I don't want to based on what has gone on. oh and she used to leave other GD to 'cry it out' which I am totally against so yet another reason but now she keeps going on about 'the wedding' and watching dd. I don't know how to go about telling her it's not happening. She knows I'm p*ssed off with her as I've been a bit more assertive with her but she's someone who is VERY argumentative and resorts to phoning my own parents and giving them verbal abuse if something I do annoys her plus she has made DH move back in with her in the past, he's a mummy's boy and she cries etc and makes him feel bad. He's trying to be on my side more but I always feel his mum comes first!
So a few tips on how to raise this with her in the best way would be much appreciated!
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mum2niamh · 26/09/2008 16:53
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