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come and tell me about your extremely unromantic marriage proposals and make me feel better...

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LadySanders Wed 24-Sep-08 20:56:05

got my decree absolute in the post on saturday so am finally divorced after waiting 5 years.

in the evening, while stripping wallpaper, dp (with whom i have lovely 7 month old ds2) says:
"so what do you want to do about getting married?"

i say:
"what do you mean?"

he says:
"well i'm not bothered but we can do it if you want to"

i say:
"not if that's your idea of a proposal, no"

he, being a man, of course thinks, hey-ho, lovely, all is well, and carries on happily with the DIY.

i sit there fuming thinking, i didn't even particularly want to get married but now you've brought it up just to tell me you don't really want to marry me, and i feel rejected.

he is lovely by the way.

just not terribly romantic.


poppy34 Wed 24-Sep-08 20:58:06 dh said something along those lines "what do you think about getting married"(he claims he was building up to his proposal)..I started ranting about the cost of weddings etc etc - sort of ruined the build up to when he handed over the ring.. I did shut up then thoguh grin

S1ur Wed 24-Sep-08 20:58:22

Show him how it is done. PLan The Most romantic proposal and shame him for all eternity.

Come on, it'll be perfect and fabulous to have as a anecdote for years to come.

And he'll be making up for it every anniversary forevvvver grin

keresley Wed 24-Sep-08 20:58:27

Well I had to chose and buy my own engagement ring as he wouldn't!

S1ur Wed 24-Sep-08 20:59:39

My idea is best.

<gets out notebook and pen>

Right romantic proposals.... what does he like doing? What food/places does he like?

LaDiDaDi Wed 24-Sep-08 21:00:56

"Are you in or are you out?"! shock.

4andnotout Wed 24-Sep-08 21:01:03

My dp asked me mid soon as it was over i dragged him to the jewellers, we have to wait until January for his 5 years to be up and then he can get divorced.
Then i just have to try and not be pregnant long enough to get married!

SorenLorensen Wed 24-Sep-08 21:01:06

Dh asked me when he thought he was dying (had just come round from second anaesthetic after they had had to operate for a second time when he had internal bleeding after an appendectomy). He was groggy and weepy and smelly and it was not at all romantic - was on a ward full of old men, who were all listening.

And my Dad asked my Mum in a phone box. They had been looking after her sister's kids while her sister gave birth (home birth) and had gone out to the phone box so he could ring his Mum and say he was on his way home. Grandma was asking about the new baby and my Dad said "oh, she's lovely - Pat and I are going to have one just the same," and Grandma said "don't you think you'd better ask her to marry you first?" so Dad hung up the phone, turned to Mum and said "My Mum says I should ask you to marry me. How about it then?" grin

poppy34 Wed 24-Sep-08 21:01:15

then pointed out he'd saved the VAT on the eng ring as it was antique

Fizzylemonade Wed 24-Sep-08 21:01:39

All hot and sweaty after big sex session in bed, he turns and says "I love you so much and I want to spend the rest of my life with you, will you marry me?" hmm

Would have been nice if this wasn't in our own bed but somewhere like Venice, a spa resort or bloody Brighton, anywhere apart from our own house.

My Mum fared worse, my Dad asked her on the back seat of a bus, I kid you not! It must run in the family, bad proposals.

indiechick Wed 24-Sep-08 21:02:41

Walking downstairs one day following live in boyfriend as he was then and he turns and says; 'I suppose we ought to get married then'. Suppose 'cos we had a house and one year old at that point.
Is this helping?!

LadySanders Wed 24-Sep-08 21:03:17

slur, he likes golf. and paella.

any ideas?

twoluvlykids Wed 24-Sep-08 21:04:46

after we'd been out for an evening, had a minor row,went home,went to bed, he said "I want to ask you something". I thought I knew he was going to propose, but he fell asleep instead! And asked me in the morning.

Dropdeadfred Wed 24-Sep-08 21:05:35

Fizzylemonade...that was one of my marriage proposals too!!!

LadySanders Wed 24-Sep-08 21:07:45

i think it must be me.

first proposal age 21. was about to dump much older bf as he didn't seem keen. the night i was going to do it, he presented me with a tiffany box with diamond solitaire, absolutely no commentary, never said he loved me, just gave me the ring. very odd.

second proposal age 25, during very big row on holiday with bf i lived with, we split up about 2 weeks later.

third proposal age 27, heavily pregnant with ds1, "your mum is really hassling me to marry you". i accepted that one. hence the divorce now.

fourth proposal, age 31, both of us married to someone else so not terribly handy but sweet of him.

fifth proposal, age 35, as OP!

BroccoliSpears Wed 24-Sep-08 21:09:12

About a month ago: "Oh bloody hell, if we're going to Dubai we need to get married".

And we are. On Monday. hmm

FanjolinaJolly Wed 24-Sep-08 21:12:05

Sat eating tea one night,dp turns round and says "So,whaddya reckon about getting married?" hmm

That was 7 years ago.....I have a ring and since 2 dcs have arived.Still no wedding yet.

bloss Wed 24-Sep-08 21:12:30

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unknownrebelbang Wed 24-Sep-08 21:18:08

We'd been hedging around the subject anyway.

So there we were, in a dive backstreet pub, having a swifty before going to see "Daisy Pulls It Off" at the theatre, when I said something along the lines of, shall we do it next year, or the year after, to which he said "next year, before I'm 30!".

We've been married 20 years today.

ditzzy Wed 24-Sep-08 21:19:55

Chose ring between us, bloke in shop asks which finger he should be measuring, I hesitate and look up expectantly at dh who says 'oh, go on then'. At least the rest of you were asked...

Although I guess something must have made us go in the shop and look at them in the first place!

MrsSnorty Wed 24-Sep-08 21:21:01

LadySanders - regardless of the lack of romance I am a bit envy, I'm a few years older than you and have never been proposed to. Not even once shock shock shock!

ActingNormal Wed 24-Sep-08 21:23:42

It was my birthday and we were on holiday - so at least it was kind of a special time and place and DH was giving me presents. He gave me an extra present which was an engagement ring. I opened it and just looked at it blankly not knowing what to think. He said "Do you know what that is?" I said "I think so". I can't remember what was said next. He just assumed that I wasn't going to say no! We thought we should 'tidy things up' by getting married now that we had our DD and were planning our DS. So our marriage is kind of an 'admin' thing grin

LadySanders Wed 24-Sep-08 21:24:10

bloss, love "it'll be a lot of work", that's the kind of thing my dp would say...

GentleOtter Wed 24-Sep-08 21:25:13

We were shifting cattle and were covered in cow poo.
I asked him if we should get married and he said 'Aye'.

So we did.

DrZeus Wed 24-Sep-08 21:27:10

I asked my DH whilst in labour with DS2! Was just being prepared for theatre and a possible CS, after 24 hours labouring and feeling really low. I had to remind him of the conversation a couple of weeks later! (He still said yes!)
That was over 4 years ago!

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