I don't know where to start sorry it will be long. I have been with dp for 3.5 years, we have 13 month old ds, and two kittens. I have PND, on citalopram but it's still here, not vastly improved really.
The kittens have been poorly since we got them a month ago. First one, then the other, now both with diarrhea. It was my idea to get the kittens, and I have cleaned up every single accident, and done everything for them. Ds has been poorly too, first diarrhea (coinciding with getting the kittens) then chronic nappy rash, then a cold.
I work part time from home, and have just taken on an evening cleaning job for a lady who I didn't realise is a hoarder worthy of Kim n Aggie, because we need the money. Dp works full time in IT.
Our house is an enormous mess, I just don't know where to start. I have a skin condition at the moment, my hands are so cracked and weeping it hurts just to open them. Exposure to water alone makes me want to cry in pain, everything irritates it and makes it worse. As such the place is filthy, and I'm drowning in it all.
Today alone I have a huge pile of work to do, the house is a state, I have all the unpacking and washing to do from going away to mil's, ds is whingy with his cold and doesn't want to be left alone, and the kittens are having watery diarrhea and one isn't eating- we took them to the vets last week but I have lost the fucking antibiotics they gave me and I cannot find them anywhere.
I haven't eaten or had a drink yet today, the only thing I've managed to do is change and feed ds and attempt to feed the cats. I have phonecalls to make and cheques to put in the bank and prescriptions to pick up, and basically, my dp doesn't help with any of it.
He does virtually nothing at home. In a day he may make me a coffee, fetch a nappy or a sleepsuit, possibly even wash a bottle or stick some washing in the dryer. The stock answer is "I work" and I've always been too ashamed of the fact that I'm not coping properly to really challenge him on this attitude. My sister says I may as well be a single parent as I get no support or practical help from him at all.
What do your dh/dp's do in a day in addition to work?
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What do your oh's do around the house and with the kids to help? not coping and no support from dp
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fedup1981 · 22/09/2008 11:40
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