It's almost 3 yrs ago since I discovered my dh was being unfaithful. We've moved on from what happened and we get along together as well as I suppose most couples with their everyday up's and down's.
It's not something that I dwell on or still get upset about but there is still a niggle that effects me every now and again.
My dh has a workshop in the garden and it was there that I found quite by accident a hidden sim card. I took the sim and put it into my phone and read the messages that had been exchanged between him and another woman. I was horrified, mortified, devastated, and quite honestly wanted to kill someone.
Anyway, I told him what I'd found and after the denials and excuses and lies we eventually went to relate, can't say it really helped a great deal as he didn't want to talk about it but we've moved on and alot of time as passed now.
The thing is, he still goes off to his workshop and although I've never tried to stop him having a phone since or quizzed, moaned or gone on about things I still have this sickening feeling in my gut wondering what if anything he's up to.
I don't want to be on his back and check up on him, I realize that if anything was ever to happen again I don't think I'd be able to stop it and I'd just get myself in a tizz worrying.
I have discussed with him about these occasional feelings but he just tells me not to be stupid as he'd never do anything again but he never offers to leave his phone in the house while he's in the workshop and I'd never suggest it as I'd feel like I was being OTT.
Will these feelings ever pass or is it something I'll probably live with forever now ? I don't know if I could actually cope with feeling like I don't trust him for the rest of our lives, it seems like such a waste, we only live once, surely we all deserve to be happy, trust and be trusted ?
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Will I ever trust my dh again ???
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aintnosaint · 20/09/2008 18:07
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