I'll try and keep this brief...bt may be difficult. Don't really know where to start there is 10yrs of history here.
Dp has never been hugely "affectionate" - especially in public...I just accepted that was the way he was. That was fine 10yrs ago...but I am getting very frsutrated by it now.
But even without the affection there used to be some element of "careing" about me...that just seems to be diminishing.
He has a new circle of friends over the last 12m or so and has started to play football and make an effort to lose some weight. He is now playing football 2 nights per week and saturday afternoons. The 3 nights he doesn't play football he works until 7/8ish.
Prior to him playing footie if I asked for a night out with friends (rare occurance) I would get lots of muttering and "objections" and, although he never stopped me he would always make it clear that it was difficult for him to change his working plans. But when he wanted to start footie on a Tues that was easy.
Then I started swimming on a Thurs (encouraged by him, to lose weight like him). And a new footie session was introduced on a Thurs....and he made a big hoo harrr about how he would have to move work around to accomodate footie. My swimming was never even mentioned. He just didn't even ackknowledge that Thurs may interupt my wants and needs.
He used to work Saturdays. Again a big hastle if I suggested we go out for hte day...but now he is playing football he doesn't work on a Saturday and it is not an issue.
It just seems as though he is hte only one that is important and that we have to rearrange our family life around him.
In the last 10yrs he has come up with every excuse imaginable not to go out for a meal with me. His mate rings on valentines day and it takes all of 10secs to make a decision there. Doesn't care about my feelings.
It is not unusal for me to end up in tears when having sex (a whole other story)....but he doens't care....he just carry's on...and ignores me. Now I wouldn't carry on if it was a huge problem to me..but I just feel that I would like him to acknowledge there is a problem. I often cry myself to sleep and he just doesn't care.
I sometimes wonder if I got run over by a bus would he care...unless it interupted his schedule...
I just want to feel wanted...I just want to feel loved...I just want him to acknowledge I have feelings...is that so much to ask?
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Feels like DP doesn't "care" about me. Feeling unloved...
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CryingMyselfToSleep · 20/09/2008 13:44
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