Last week I showed my wedding photos to a woman I thought was my friend. She said they were 'lovely' and asked me where I'd got my wedding dress from and my son's suits etc.
Anyway a few days later I recognised her username on a website (she'd mentioned the site before, I'd had to odd look but never used it properly, this time I stumbled on her name by accident). Anyway the subject line was:
"Just been looking at someone's wedding photos and...."
So obviously I clicked on it, admittidly expecting that she'd written nice things about us and the message went like this: (copied and pasted)
"OMG. It was like an episode of shameless! pmsl. She'd got her wedding dress on credit from the catalogue and the kids suits looked about 3 sizes too big for them (probably so they can wear them again at her next wedding lol). The lot of them looked dog rough, tattoos showing, half of them looked pissed up, her hubby didn't even look as if he'd had a shave! I know I probably sound like a right snobby cow but honestly, can't these people even make an effort for one bloody day?"
I know its me she's on about. I started crying when I'd read it and have felt like crying ever since. I've never felt so hurt. I thought she was a friend.
Someone actually replied and put
"and this woman is your friend??"
and so she replied
"god no, she just takes her kids to the same school as we do".
I don't know whether to confront her, ignore her, reply to her post or what.
I've name changed because she knows my usual username (although as far as I know doesn't use this site).
Why are people so bloody horrible and nasty all the time? what's the point?
I really feel for you. I'd also write something on the other site and give her the cold shoulder in RL.
People are horrible. I never understand this - not just the meanness online, but the slagging off of other people's weddings etc. Why? If I have a great wedding, what right do you have to comment on it? Pah!
How awful for you - I would reply on the thread in question, or post another one about how someone you thought was a friend has turned out to be an odious snobbby backstabber...don't let her spoil your day though, she's not worth it x
She is just trying to get a cheap laugh out of you. She is a very sad cow. I think I would reply on the thread. Everyone will stand up for you as they would on here and she will be so mortified she won't want to leave the house.
wide berth needed - she is not someone to be bothered with - she plainly sees herself as a cut above you, she is deluded! no-one with ANY class would do that, and the langugue used in her post shows is is not really 'all that'
don't do anything, just treat her with the disdain she so richly deserves.
i would post on the thread i think...nothing rude or confrontational, but just something like "i bet the poor lady would be devastated to hear your hurtful comments about her wedding photos....i hope you don't value her friendship....i would want nothing more to do with you if it were me..." or something...ovbiously written in a less shit way, lol.
rise above it...you know where you are with her now. move on and know that you enjoyed your day, and i bet you looked great! x