Because quite frankly "congratualations" is sticking in my throat.
My sis is not even 21, she has been with this bloke for a couple of years, and during that time he has gone AWOL from the army and beat her up, and, as the police take matters into their own hands now, been prosecuted and fined for beating her up.
So now she says she is marrying him. She is a not very mature 20 year old. Part of me is worried and thinks she is making a mistake but part of me is just pissed of as I think she is making a mockery of marriage. Does she really think she is going to be with this bloke till death do us part?
She left school before doing her GCSEs, did practically nothing, started a few courses then quit them. Managed to get the council to give her a flat, has just quit her latest job without another to go to (nice to be able to do that when you have the security of a council flat, wish we could just do that when DH's job have been treating him like crap ). I lent her money from my meagre wedding savings when she was about to get evicted from her last flat on the proviso that she pay me back in installments. When my wedding came around and I asked her for the money back instead of "no sorry I don't have it" I got a whole load of shit back about what a great life I have with my £20 an hour job (she is delusional, but if I do get paid more than her it's because I worked my arse of to put myself through uni and got a job) and don't I know how tough her life is? And I can't ever mention it now because she gets all shitty and upset and I get a bollocking from my mum (apparently it was my fault for lending it to her in the first place). Well, I guess all that seems irrelevant but it is just an indication of how irresponsible and immature she is. This just seems like a complete farce! And now my mum is saying "we can all muck in" to help with the wedding, but I really don't want to be a part of this at all.
Sorry, that was a massive vent. I'm just feeling really angry with my sister over a lot of things and this is just the straw that breaks the camel's back.
And now she's saying "well, now I've got a flat with a garden I can have your DD over to stay". Yeah, like I'm going to send my baby over to your smoke filled flat to stay with the bloke who beat you up
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So, wtf do I say to my sister who has announced that she is marrying the bloke who beat her up?
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