DD goes to my parent's house every Saturday night for a 'sleepover' which she loves doing. I also enjoy it, because it means I get to spend some guilt free time with 3mo DS. DD has been quite jealous and possesive since DS was born.
Anyway, DD started school this week, mornings only. DH has been off work all week. I have been getting up 2-3 hourly every night with DS for feeding, then getting up and sorting and taking DD to school before returning to collect her. I have then entertained both DCs until DH has deigned to get up out of bed. Most days this week, he has remained in bed until DD has finished school and we have returned home.
DH and I had a discussion earlier on in the week whereby we decided that as it was her first week at school, DD would remain home this weekend, mostly because we thought she would be tired from her first week at school. DH has mentioned in the past that he is unhappy with DD going to my parents' every week but has been ok about her going.
Tonight though, he sent me a text, asking me if I wanted to go out. I said yes, as I have had the most stressful day ever with DS. I think he is teething so is refusing feeds, but then screaming through hunger. He is generally whingy and clingy and has required constant attention all day to the point, I felt that DD was pretty much left to her own devices.
Mum phoned and asked if DD was going to stay and I said no, reminding her that I had mentioned it earlier in the week. She then asked how DS had been. Once I explained how he had been all day, she said she would bring round some teething stuff to try. So mum comes round with the teething gel and again asks about DD. At this point I am still saying no but then I thought, what was the harm considering she wasn't very tired from her first week at school and would probably enjoy the undivided attention of my parents, especially as I had been so preoccupied with DS all day. I thought it would be better for her to go and be spoilt there and let me concentrate on DS, leading to a less stressful time for DH and I tonight.
So I told DH what I had decided and he went crazy on the phone at me, refusing to let me explain the reasons why I had let her go. Apparently I was "fucking out of order" because he wanted us all to go out tonight as DD had been at school all week. He put the phone down on me and came home all moody, ignoring me.
I can understand that he is annoyed, as we had made a decision earlier on in the week and I went back on it. However, not saying I was in the right, I had had the day from hell and DH didn't mention when he asked me if I wanted to go out that it was to be a family thing because of DD at school. I am also annoyed that if he wanted to spend this time with DD, he could of got his arse up out of bed at any point this week to either collect her and spend time with her. He's been off work all week. I don't think I would feel so fed up with him if he had at least given me the chance to talk to him about the day I had had and the reasons for me letting DD go.
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So, I've managed to upset DH to the point where he has slept on the sofa, just when we have been getting on brilliantly
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