Hi,
this is my frst addition to the discussion. I need some advice. I was in love with the same person for years. We had a relationship that ended badly but never seemed to be over. Eventually he met someone else. I liked her but knowing there was still chemistry between us she was always edgy about me( understandable really). In the end i moved away. Cut him out of my life. I met someone else and only came back after they had a baby and married. I was happy for him. I really do feel if you love someone and your not right for them then that is the only way to be but never did i forget him. I found out through mutual friends that there were problems in their relationship and refused his request to be friends. Thought it was too dangerous. One night i was very drunk at a party( as a virtual teetotaller it didnt take a lot) he showed up where i was and i am ashamed to say when he offered me a lift home something happened. The next day i cut him out again totally. I didnt want to be an adulteress. Sleeping in his arms and knowing he was there was such a relief and for me like coming home but i couldnt be that person. I couldnt hurt other people. Three weeks later i found out i was pregnant. Despite his early agreement to stand by me knowing the life they had together before i came back i put him in a position where he had no choice but to stay with her. I dont regret it. They dont deserve to suffer and neither does he. I kept the baby and it is due soon but still after all this i cant put him out of my head. I wont talk to him and stay away from where he is. I wouldnt take him back and i dont want his money. I want to live peacefully. He is always in my head. I want to meet someone else eventually but they somehow just fall by the wayside. How do i stop doing this. How do i stop loving him.
Please or to access all these features
Please
or
to access all these features
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
i dont know how to let go
9 replies
prettyfly1 · 23/02/2005 23:01
OP posts:
audrey68 ·
26/02/2005 17:36
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn
audrey68 ·
04/03/2005 19:35
This reply has been deleted
Message withdrawn
Please create an account
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.