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I am smiling, chilled.feel really really happy! It's crazy because I have every reason to be f***ing livid.

(54 Posts)
whosaidthat Sun 07-Sep-08 11:19:58

what are your predictions for the day ahead?

Shall I let dh carry on thinking that I don't know he has offered to buy something (for his hobby) for £850. Shall I see just how long he is going to continue showering me with affection and talking non stop in that lovey dovey way, because he knows it is a stupid thing to do and he has to tell me eventually?
Shall I kick him in the fucking nuts now?

Drusilla Sun 07-Sep-08 11:20:58

Lol, let him think he has got away with it and then kick him in the nuts!

Lizzylou Sun 07-Sep-08 11:21:15

Oh no, let him stew some more and enjoy your treatment.

ReginaFalangi Sun 07-Sep-08 11:22:21

Drop hints now and then to test him and see his reaction.

Oh what a lovely power trip! smile

RubySlippers Sun 07-Sep-08 11:23:09

shock at £850

what is it?

Spidermama Sun 07-Sep-08 11:23:26

Start planning your own £850 pound treat.

SmugColditz Sun 07-Sep-08 11:26:23

Go on a clothes shopping spree. He knows he has absolutely NO grounds to stop you.

whosaidthat Sun 07-Sep-08 11:29:03

I have known since 10.30 last night just after he made his offer on line. I shit you not I have actually witnessed him walk around guiltily and can now see just how much emphasis he is putting on being all jolly happy and loving to me (when normally he wouldn't)
Never in our eleven years of marriage have I ever held back....I normally express my self immediately, then things are resolved or settle.
The fact that I have not raised this would mean to him that I don't know.
What is astounding me is watching his actions as a guilty's fascinating reallywink

DustyTv Sun 07-Sep-08 11:29:40

£850 shock, he must have a very expensive hobby. How does he think he is going to keep it from you.

It's not a guitar is it, my DH would spend that sort of money on a guitar, but only after talking to me about it first.

Agree, let him think he has got away with it and then kick him in the nuts just when he thinks all is okay.

bellavita Sun 07-Sep-08 11:30:40

let him stew, kick him in the nuts and then kick again just for good measure grin

pleeeese tell us what he has bought

Carmenere Sun 07-Sep-08 11:31:08

Are you short of money? What makes him think that it is reasonable to spend that much on a personal item?

bellavita Sun 07-Sep-08 11:31:38

why don't you say to him gosh, I could do with some new clothes for autumn and see what he says?

RubySlippers Sun 07-Sep-08 11:32:10

there is no way my DH would spend that sort of money without discussing it

who - can you afford this????

DustyTv Sun 07-Sep-08 11:32:44

If he is acting guilty then that suggests that he knows he is being unreasonable, by at the very least not talking to you about it first.

I would be livid if my DH did this without talking to me. How on earth are you stopping yourself from saying something to him??

Anna8888 Sun 07-Sep-08 11:34:11

Tease him about it grin.

Don't say anything about his purchase, but rather get online, make a shopping basket of lovely new clothes for you to the value of £850 and then go and see him and, politely and lovingly, ask him whether it is OK with him that you go ahead as it is, of course, coming out of your joint money.

georgiemum Sun 07-Sep-08 11:34:26

Tell him that your fridge and cooker are on their way out and that you need about £800 to replace them. "If only we have the money - the kids will starve..."

whosaidthat Sun 07-Sep-08 11:34:50

yes we are short of money!
I am cutting corners in every possible way.
I am embarrassed to tell you this is for a matching fishing pole. A fishing rod for the "big boys" grin

lulumama Sun 07-Sep-08 11:35:12

what sort of hobby is it? diamond collecting?

lulumama Sun 07-Sep-08 11:35:47

then you must stop him ! unless he is planning on catching your dinner for the next year

RubySlippers Sun 07-Sep-08 11:36:31

you are short of money and he has spent £850 on a fishing rod shock and angry whilst you are cutting corners and making do

i would be incandescent with rage

can you cancel the purchase?

bellavita Sun 07-Sep-08 11:37:03

for that - I would kick in in the nuts!

bellavita Sun 07-Sep-08 11:37:13


Carmenere Sun 07-Sep-08 11:37:18

FFS, stop with the game playing and go and tell him to cancel it, unless he has gotten an inheritance or won on the lottery or something. that is a ridiculous and incredibly selfish thing to buy if you are short of money.

DustyTv Sun 07-Sep-08 11:37:45

shock OMFG, a kick in the nuts is the least that he deserves. You are short of money and cutting corners, I do not envy you. Is he obliged to get it now, can you or he not cancel it.

shock OMG. It is an awful situation for you to be in.

bellavita Sun 07-Sep-08 11:39:21

in fact, I would follow him when he goes fishing and when he is using the said "pole", just give a "push" from the back grin

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