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Do you think dh is cheating? no interest in sex when pg

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onlycurious Sat 06-Sep-08 17:41:56

have namechanged for this question, just want some other opinions on this. dh was keen on sex and bjs prior to recently. 31 weeks and dh has not wanted sex or oral sex at all "because he of the baby".
Everything that I hear is always that lack of sexual interest is a sure sign that dh is cheating. Is this just pg hormones worrying or could this be a sign that he is having an affair?
We have been arguing a lot lately, but I think that is more to do with me just being over emotional.

WaynettaSlob Sat 06-Sep-08 17:44:24

Well if your DH is having an affair then so is mine.......I think men generally find sex in late pregnancy offputting....there was a great scene in 'Knocked Up' (I think it was) where the bloke stopped mid-action as he said he was convinced he was poking the baby in the head!

So in short, I think it's hormones, pregnancy and men. If it doesn't get back to normal after baby then look at it again...

AvenaLife Sat 06-Sep-08 17:44:53

Some men are frightened of having sex with their pregnant partner because they are afraid of harming the baby. Honest!

Pinkchampagne Sat 06-Sep-08 17:52:20

We didn't have sex for the entire 9 months!

onlycurious Sat 06-Sep-08 17:52:45

Thank you!
I realize that I'm overreacting about this. Just needed some reassurance. He has said he's afraid of hurting the baby and that it just doesn't seem "right".
I have just never known him to not be interested in sex at all. But he's a great dh!

Janni Sat 06-Sep-08 17:54:23

I wouldn't say that a lack of sexual interest is always a sure sign of cheating. There are lots of men who feel unsure about having sex with a pregnant woman and he may have lots of other things on his mind. Try to keep the communication between you going rather than assuming he is cheating. Good luck with the baby.

TequilaMockinBird Sat 06-Sep-08 17:57:28

XP didnt want sex towards the end of my pregnancy with DD incase she 'reached down and grabbed him' hmm

I was so tempted to say 'dont flatter yourself love you're not that big' grin

scanner Sat 06-Sep-08 18:02:19

We hardly had sex during pg and trust me we have a great sex life the rest of the time.

shinyshoes Sat 06-Sep-08 18:21:49

My OH didnt want sex at all during pregnancy as he said 'it just don't seem right' hmm

I bled after sex with one of our other children so I think that played on his mind a little

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