I don't know where to start. I used to post to mumsnet quite frequently, but haven't been around in ages. This is my situation:
My husband and I have been married for 5 years and have dd who is 8 months. My husband has always been prone to mood swings and has spent most of our marriage depressed. I have asked him countless times to get help, but he flat out refuses. As miserable and grumpy as he has been, I have never been scared of him...but today I am.
We have two cats and one of them has a sensitive stomach. She was being sick on the floor this morning (laminate, not even carpet) and he absolutely went after her. He chased her into the bedroom screaming at her and when she hid under the bed to get away he sat on the floor and started kicking under the bed trying to get her. I know it might sound like something tiny, but he really scared me. He flipped out and went nuts over something so small. If he goes after our cat for being sick what is he going to be like when our daughter is sick? He grew up watching his father abuse his mother and I always thought because of seeing that, he would never do the same. But he's never flipped out like this before and before it escalates and he does something worse, I want out. I don't know what I would do to him if he ever hurt our daughter.
Here's my problem: I do have somewhere I could go for the short term. My friend is on holiday for two weeks and I know she wouldn't mind me staying at hers while she's away. I know she would let my daughter and me stay indefinitely. But I don't know what I would do with my daughter when I'm at work. I currently work part time. We have worked my schedule so I work when my husband is off and he therefore takes care of our daughter. But I don't trust him with her now and I can't afford childcare on my pitiful wages. I'm stuck here and I don't know what to do.
The other issue is a pretty major one. My husband and I are waiting for our house to sell so we can emigrate back to Canada (I'm Canadian). Obviously if I leave him, I will be stuck in the UK. I cannot see any court allowing me to take our daughter 3000 miles away permanently. But I can't afford to live in this country as a single parent.
I am so confused. He's at work now and won't be back until 6pm tonight. I need to have something in place before then. Please please help me. I need some advice.
Thanks
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PLEASE Help! Urgent advice needed! I want to leave my husband.
SummerC · 06/09/2008 08:31
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