DH and I have always been o really good/stable couple but I really feel at the moment that I can't take on much more responsibilty;his father's business has just gone down the tubes,the death has been a long and painful one to which Dh's mother has been pretty much oblivious to (FIL has kept her in the dark,but this has not been difficult to do)They will have to sell the house but will get some of the equity but will struggle financially,she is distraught,and I am spending a lot of time bolstering her confidence and dh helping with practical stuff and the legal side.The upshot of this long story is that basically we will have to be the main financial providers for them if not immediately then certainly within 5 years ,we always knew this would happen eventually but had hoped that we would at least get ds1 through secondry school (currently year4)It's not that I begrudge the money ,but its just always been like having two extra children the rely on us for so much support,I am currently not working,worked after first two but decided when no.3 was born to spoil ourselves and I would stay at home for a couple of years,must go back now,also will have to sell house probably in order to help them with housing in some way.I know I should be more supportive but to be honest am terrified at the prospect of so much responsibity for the next 30 years,cannot sleep and have developed eczema on arms etc.Shouted at dh tonight about it and he went ballistic.Can't talk to friends here aas small comunity and it would not be fair ion MIL and FIL.I think I am going to go mad.Sorry for this rant but just needed to tell someioneHave changed my nickname as don't want this to colour any other conversations.
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