The short story-I have 2 kids and 1 has had problems in her teens.Now 23.
Short story is I looked after my grandaughter for a week. My daughter is getting towards the end of he pregnancy and was asked to work pretty much full time. I had said to her a number of times that we would look after her daughter (who we adore) for a week towards the end of he pregnancy,because I thought it would give her a break.
We did this,but the day before we were due to bring her home,my sons 5 year relationship broke up leaving him homeless and vituallully jobless. Needless to say he was in need of support,and moved in with me.
At the same time (following day) I had picked up a nasty 48-hour virus that was doing the rounds here-giving me severe headaches and feelings of exhaustion.
Explained to my daughter that my son needed me there.I also had to take him to collect his belongings-this was a small family crisis whee you should all pull together.
My daughter responded (in a nutshell) by making series after series of outrageous claims that hurt me deeply. She said I had
been pestering her all summer to look after her daughter,that I was not really ill,that I was trying to "keep " her daughter because i wanted to. I explained non of this was true,but it became clear she didn't care how ill i was,she just wanted me to bring her home.
It was a three and a half hour drive,and there was no way I was safe ,or fit to do that,at that stage.The rest of my family were telling me there was no way I was well enough to take her,and that my daughter was being highly uneasonable,but no amount of talking would help. She even put the phone down on my OH.My son,who saw the effect all this had on my said,she has always been the same. We all know she has a lot or growing up to do.
I can only say,that all my family (in laws and son) know just how much I do for my daughter,including getting a phone installed so I can stand the price of the calls so I can phone her to let her vent off he feelings (she has also fallen out with her in laws).Yet she told me,in this phase,that i ring HER because I want to talk to her (completely missing that we have long calls where she is angry at eveyone,and I do this for her benefit,not mainly mine, and I feel like I have been battered round the head with a brick at the end)
Several people who I have told exactly what she said to me,and previous stuff too are appalled-she also told me if i spoke to her OH he would tell me to f off.)
I took he back to her Mum 3 days late,even though I wasn't quite well enough,she also refused to let me stay over night (often in the past I have had to stay in a hotel)even when I had looked after he daughter .
I do so many small thoughtfull things for her,too numerous to mention,including financial,that the pain of how I am treated is just too hard to bear.
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Mother and very difficult daughter-big control issues- getting too painful to cope with-how do i cope?
sarah7777 · 03/09/2008 09:41
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