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[ellkerr]

i've niver posted a message before and since i don't know any of you then this seemed like the easiest place to start. i've just asked the father of my two children and partner for over 8 years to leave and now he is gone. i have no idea how i feel, i can't really belive ive did it. ive heard myself say it a thousand times in my head but know ive done it. i have in one sentance totally changed the course of my and my childens life and i dont really know what to do now.

[pedilia]

Why did you ask him to leave ??

[Bella23]

Do you feel like you want to tell us a bit of background? Why you wanted him to leave etc? It might help so that people who have the same experiences etc can offer advice.
Hugs to you at this difficult time

[Somanykiddies]

I am also new to Mumsnet and for what it's worth I left my ex after a 13 year abusive marriage, thinking 'what an earth have I done', but after 8 months I can truely say that it was the best thing I have ever done. My children are far less stressed than when we were all together and therefore happier.

It will take time to come to terms with what you have done, but you have taken the first step to so many possibilities. Wishing you well.

[ellkerr]

i don't love him at lease i don't think i do. we have been unhappy for years around 4 i think. he is not a crule pearson he dose not shout or argue. He is lazy and i didnt feel like there we two of us in the relationship. we hardly ever had sex and i felt more like his mother than anything else.
i looked at him this morning and i felt hatred for him and i knew i had to do something before that was all their was left i cant hate the father of my childen i cant let that kind of poison seap through my family.

[wild]

well done you ellkerr you have real bottle

[ellkerr]

i don't know about bottle i think i may have lost my mind. my grand parents are failing and have just went into care my mum has turned to the bottle big time because she cant cope and is well on her way to alcholism. i don't even think i can tell her she just couldnt take it.

[bunni]

have you any friends that maybe can give you a little bit of help that you may need?