Things between us are such that it doesn't really feel like a marriage (or not how i want one to be.)
Been together 7 years and have 2 yr old ds.Been violence from both of us in past (not for 5 yrs now and hoep to god in the past). I sort of feel my love for him has been killed by previous rows, things that have been said and done.We have only had sex 4 times in the last 3 years. We sleep in separate tooms most of the time due to his snoring. The doctor told him it would help stop his snoring if he lost weight - that was 3 years ago but he's not lost any or made much attempt to. i was on AD's when i met him and on and of afterward until a year ago. It feels like now my mind is clear and not influenced by tablets, i'm with the wrong person. I left a sweet gentle bloke to be weith my h.
BUT, the thought of leaving his terries me and i feel i would miss him in some ways. he loves palying with ds and that has never come that naturally to me. I completely love ds and h and i have different skills when it come to looking after him. we complement eachother i suupose.
We've tried counselling several times and we both know what we need to do but it doesn't work. I prepared a list of things i'd like ot change and he did the same and we agreed discuss this once a week to see how things were going. This was my idea (as are most things!) and i don't want to give up without trying everything. He deosn't want us ot split up either but he know i can't say i love him anymore.
I have a great life in the week as a sahm and we are financially very comfortable. I hate the idea of going back to work, which i'd have to do if h and i separate.
And another thing is i bumped intot the sweet ex a few weeks ago and we're meeting up again for lunch(as friends) Any advice anyone?
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dont know whether to stay with h
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mymittens · 26/08/2008 08:34
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