I have a fabulous DP who I love to bits.
I am one of the most faithful, anti-adultery people out there you could ever meet. I will argue my corner until the cows come home, and on any other subject I will accept there is room for leeway. Relationships are black and white.
So, why am I not stepping away? I have a male friend. I get on very well with him. We were together in the past (before DP, childbirth etc). We talk online, texts, just about lives in general. But I can feel myself falling. I love DP, I would never do anything with this other man, but I can feel my brain occasionally thinking not entirely friend thoughts.
Can I keep a friendship with him, or do I have to just cut all contact? He is a great friend and I would miss him terribly. As far as I am aware, he has no interest in me like that, so again, it is very safe. Do I have to stop all contact because of the odd rogue thought?
My black and white brain says anything is wrong. My more logical possibly slightly stubborn brain is thinking that if there is the slightest inkling of non-friend then I should run like hell.
can you keep a friendship when there are the occasional musings if you know it would never be acted on, or is the act of musing a form of cheating in itself. I know I would be hurt if DP was musing.
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Mumnstuff · 24/08/2008 21:55
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