A new person started working at the same place as DH about 6-8 weeks ago, a woman who DH described to me as built like a brick shit-house and looks like a man. In the type of work DH does, this didn't surprise me as it's quite a physical job and I think you would need some muscles (or so to speak) to do it.
DH seemed to hit it off with her straight away and from what DH had said about her, she seemed to me to be really nice, just one of the lads.
Quite quickly she began confiding in DH about her relationship with her B/F who is supposedly an alcoholic and not very nice to her. She also started to get DH to do little favours for her like taking her wages around to her mums house (she lives down the road from us) on his way home. I didn't think anything of this except that she must be bloody trusting of someone she's only known for a couple of weeks. DH mentioned a tv series that he really liked so she gave him 3 video box sets to keep of that series.
Earlier on this week DH had a car accident close to work when he was on his way home. He was on a half day as he had an appointment to get to. This woman very kindly lent him her car for the afternoon, telling him he would have to pick her up at the end of her working day and that she might be able to borrow her sisters car for a few days so that he could have hers.
DH's neck was stiff and sore by the time he got home so I drove him to his appointment and then drove him to his work to fetch this woman. DH walked in before me and she was all beaming smiles to him, when I walked in her face just dropped. The look on her face said it all and suddenly everything became clear. All her over the top niceties seemed to have good intentions but I really don't think they were, not judging by the look on her face. This was the first time I had met her and she was far from the ugly man-a-like that DH had described.
Yesterday DH phoned me on his mobile by mistake. I listened at first because I thought it was funny hearing him talking to himself but then I could hear her voice too. I heard him talking to her in the same stupid voice that he talks to me in, and just talking to her in a way that I've never heard before. At one stage she got a bit of dust in her eye (yeah right!) and the concern he had for her was unbelievable. It actually made me feel sick hearing my husband talking to another woman with such a closeness that obviously I thought only he and I had.
When I picked him up and asked him about his day he lied and told me that he had been working all afternoon with one of the other guys.
Not being able to bottle it up I confronted him last night. He says that there is absolutely nothing going on, he doesn't fancy her and didn't realise he was talking to her inappropriately. He says that now he thinks about it, and with other things that have happened at work (like her shifting a cardboard box and saying to him "ooh my box is all damp"), that possibly she fancies him and that he has enjoyed the attention. He has assured me that that is as far as it has gone and it all ends now. From now on she's just a work colleague and will try his hardest to keep it that way (ie only talk to her about work related things).
Should I be worried? Have I done enough to nip this in the bud. I feel like I'm being tortured knowing that my husband is at work with this woman right now.
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Have I nipped this in the bud?
budnipper · 21/08/2008 10:03
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