Worried about sex with new man.. hoping sex experts out there might reassure me..

[mummynewname]

Ladies, you may find this funny and I don't know if this is the right place for this - but I am seeing a new man - totally in love etc. - but I am really worried about having sex with him.

I gave birth to ds 2 years ago, and new man has a lovely but quite small and very slim penis. To put it bluntly - I'm worried it won't even touch the sides!

Have been doing pelvic floor exercises and everything - but I am so concerned about disappointing him.

Any words of wisdom very welcome..

[Dropdeadfred]

did you ever have problems with you ex after the birth of your ds?
if you use tampax now do they ever fall out or leak abnormally?

I think you are worrying abiut nothing - honestly!!

[Northumberlandlass]

Ah - I had to respond! I don't want you to go unanswered. You are in love with each other - you will not disappoint him !

and I don't think you are going to know until he's inside you (sorry - if too blunt)if he 'touches the sides'.

Is it just his size (lack of) that is worrying you or something else ?

I did believe that after my DS my Foof was like an old wellie top - but it wasn't. phew.

I don't know if any of that has helped.

xxxxxx

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

new beau says if he's not happy/disappointed then he's obsessed with sex!

[mummynewname]

Thanks - God this IS embarassing - didn't have problems after birth - but ex was much bigger - and tbh we hardly did it after ds!

Don't use tampons - but I erm.. have had to use Tena ladies on and off iykwim.

Probably am panicking too much - but I would just hate him to feel let down or inadequate.

[Remotew]

I think he may disappoint you .

Seriously unless its unusually tiny I don't think you will have a problem.

I only remember once having sex with someone and I honestly couldn't feel it at all. Been told I'm quite narrow. I didn't worry that it was my fault.

[Northumberlandlass]

I know this is embarassing for you and you are obviously nervous about it, but I'm a bit jealous ! Having sex with someone new is great, especially when you love them.

Enjoy enjoy enjoy

xx

[zippitippitoes]

im sure he will be happy

you might be disappointed?

i think getting clothes off in front of new man is the hard part

presumably you have already done that

[Overmydeadbody]

As long as he is talented in other areas and knows how to please you don't worry about it.

It is his problem if he has a small penis, not yours!

(ps are you really in love with someone you haven't actually had sex with yet? How does that work?)

[mummynewname]

Now you have made me

He's so lovely - and he's really confident too - probably loads of hidden issues on my part here.

[Overmydeadbody]

but as zippi says, you will probably be disappointed. Nothing worse than not even knowing if it's in or not!

[mummynewname]

I can answer that - we have been taking this very slowly - unusual for me that! He has been able to please me in lots of other ways though - so don't worry about that.

He does have quite a stressful job in the police service and has been on ADs for a while - coming off them now - and this has added to his erm.. 'tumescence problem' as he calls it.

You are right though - we fancy each other like mad - shouldn't be a problem - I just want things to be perfect and am rather inexperienced with.. slim willies

[mummynewname]

omdb - this is what I dread - don't want to have to fake it or fib to him..

[Northumberlandlass]

Inexperienced with slim willies !!! Lucky you.

xx

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

ahem, well, XH is huge! (wouldn't tell him that thou)! and was worried about finding someone who would ahem 'make the grade' but you know what - it's not fair ont he bloke to compare the size of his to your x's - althou to be fair the bloke who I was with a wile back was well - found wanting - was small, (a lot), and it well, wasn't used in the right manner! current beau however isn't mahoosive, it's a nice size - but the key thing is he knows how to use it.

(am talking about never having the 'O' with XH unless it was manual prior to penetration - but with new beau it's well - everytime, and fantastic) ahem.

anyhow enjoy your new man, you've done the worst bit by getting undressed I reckon, and as long as he's concerned about pleasing you as well as his own pleasure, and like wise you are you should be fine.

[Overmydeadbody]

no need to fake or fib, just make sure he pleases you in other ways first, or failing that, just pleasure yourself while he is penetrating you. Answer solved

[mummynewname]

thank you lovely ladies - feeling better already

x

[ILovePudding]

IMO it doesn't matter that you've had two children, or that he has a slim penis. Sex with a new partner is always going to feel different than it did with your last and you just have to experiment a bit with different positions to find the one(s) that work for you both.

You lucky girl! Have fun

[Remotew]

Spandex

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

lol. about eve - ok trick is - u on top, and you legs tight to his boy, and basically lean back a bit ooh yes! (helps if the man can kiss I reckon as well!)

[Northumberlandlass]

sounds good Spandex

I also like the reverse cowboy...him sitting up slightly (preferably on a sofa), pulling you down on to him, your hand is free to have a play with yourself !

I'm now

xxx

[SpandexIsMyEnemy]

am yet to try that one on the sofa like that - reverse cowboy?? - you face away from him and stradle?

(oh the things to talk about of an afternoon! - still DS is with his nan and it's light relief from my studys!)

[Northumberlandlass]

Yep, that's it. It gets very jiggly... well I do cos I have jiggly bits.

Yee ha !

[mummynewname]

you GIRLS!!

Just so I'm sure - are these positions good for him, you or both!?

(don't fancy reverse cowboy much - not my best side )

[zippitippitoes]

no idea my only possible position is flat on my back any other and i look pants

[mummynewname]

even that's not so hot since breast feeding

• shrunken tits in armpits : (