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Is watching porn alone okay....

(20 Posts)
pulsar Sun 17-Aug-08 22:04:53

...DP not interested so would be watching it alone. Should not adversely affect sex life as DP is quite satisfied in that Dept and I just like to have a bit more....

Interested in your various views.

Ewe Sun 17-Aug-08 22:06:08

Not wrong in my opinion, is your DH happy for you to watch it alone?

pulsar Sun 17-Aug-08 22:10:08

DP ocassionally interested (in the heat of the moment). I sense a little quiet disapproval though.

Ewe Sun 17-Aug-08 22:14:24

I think if it is going to make him feel a little uncomfortable/unwanted/unloved then you need to think very carefully about it. There are lots of threads in the archives from partners who feel unattractive etc due to a partner using porn.

What about erotic literature? Less threatening.

pulsar Sun 17-Aug-08 22:16:20

good point. recommendations?

Ewe Sun 17-Aug-08 22:19:45

Nancy Friday writes interesting books, they talk alot about female sexuality and have lots of stories about real women's sexual fantasies.

Here is a good website with a good selection of books.

pulsar Sun 17-Aug-08 22:22:08

many thanks

solidgoldbrass Sun 17-Aug-08 22:23:04

It's basically between you and your DP because opinions on the subject are often polarised, and only you two know what is right in your relationship. Is your DP simply uninterested, or does he/she actively dislike porn? If the latter, then you need to talk about it a bit, make sure you know where the dislike comes from and that you can provide reassurance where necessary.
Ewe's suggestion about erotic literature is a good one: for one thing some couples find that reading erotic literature is a good way to open up discussions about stuff they might like to try out.

MindingMum Sun 17-Aug-08 22:27:16

I think it's fine

beanieb Sun 17-Aug-08 22:29:39

Quiet disaproval will be come noisy disaproval if you don't talk about it. Could you talk about it?

TheHedgeWitch Sun 17-Aug-08 22:34:01

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Overmydeadbody Sun 17-Aug-08 22:40:54

Yes I think it is fine.

I recdommend redtube.com

lou33 Sun 17-Aug-08 22:43:19

aside from redtube there is youporn.com

pretty much the same layout

pulsar Sun 17-Aug-08 22:43:35

i have to be careful that DP doesn't think that I am putting pressure as my s-drive is higher.

Ewe Sun 17-Aug-08 22:46:55

Oh literotica is good too, stories and videos etc too.

Could you restrict use to when he is not about?

pulsar Sun 17-Aug-08 22:55:42

I guess so but prefer to be open about it.

many thanks. Off to bed now. goodnight

pulsar Sun 17-Aug-08 22:56:21

thanks for the sites!!

MuthaHubbard Mon 18-Aug-08 08:58:40

If you like erotic fiction (which somehow feels less 'in your face' so to speak!)literotica is good, also this one an internet 'friend' of mine has just started:

shameless plug

BalloonSlayer Mon 18-Aug-08 09:25:20

By heck, MuthaHubbard!

grin

mayorquimby Mon 18-Aug-08 10:45:27

i've always been of the opinion that anything is ok in a relationship once both parties are happy.
so if he's cool with it then fine, if he's not you need to discuss it together.

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