I have been seeing a man for around 8 months. He doesn't tend to lift a finger whilst in my house but then as he doesn't live here I didn't really expect him too at first.
Thing is though he's been spending more and more time here and I'm starting to think that he should be doing more to help.
When we buy lager in on a weekend, he leaves all his bottles lined up at the foot of the sofa and I have to clean them all up in the morning. Same with take-away papers and boxes, sweet wrappers just left lying on the sofa. He leaves his dirty clothes (boxers and socks as well as t-shirts and jeans) scattered all over my bedroom floor.
Last night he came here straight from work and said he was getting a shower, when I went in after him he'd left his shoes on the bathroom floor and a big pile of clothes on the toilet! I was tired so I just put them on the floor and he then moaned that it "wouldn't have hurt me" to take them upstairs for him
Its getting worse as time goes on. Last weekend I was feeling ill and so after cooking tea etc he said "leave the pots, I'll see to the kitchen". Aside from having to pick my jaw up from the floor I was really pleased, 5 minutes later he came and sat back down in the living room I said "you done??" and he said "yeah! only think I havn't done is wash the pans". I said "ok, thanks". An hour or so later I went into the kitchen for a drink and he'd done sod all! there were pots all in the sink, food left spilt on the sides...all he HAD done is put the pots in the sink rather than leave them on the side.
Am I being unreasonable since he doesn't actually live here or is he one of these men that think women should do it all?
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Is he one of those men child things that you all talk about?
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TwistedSis · 16/08/2008 21:31
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