Evening ladies!
My sister(26) is planning to get married next year. Her and fiance have mortgage together and live in the house which they have been putting time/effort/love into.
Their relationship is very rocky. They have been together 4 years and living together for 1 year. They are currently not speaking, it has been 4 DAYS... They spend little time together and often have huge blazing rows. They argue over almost anything. My sister admits that she could "do better" but says she loves him. He refused to anything in the house if she watched soaps or her telly one night which was the start of not speaking to one another.She always rings mum or me with any probs rather than being able to speak to fiance.
Yesterday she went to try on wedding dresses despite them not talking, having sickness/runs (sorry tmi!) and a patient dying under her care this week (she is a nurse). My mum was in tears saying how unhappy and tortured she looked. We both feel she wants the fairy tale and loves the idea of a big wedding rather than the importance of marriage itself.
We both just want her to be happy but she clearly isn't. What do we do?? Stand by and watch?? She knows how my mum feels as her and fiance don't speak. I do get on with her fiance so perhaps try and talk to them together but is it my business? Mum and I don't want to lose my sister and want her to know we are always there for her but my Mum is heartbroken at the thought of her entering into a liftime of misery.
Mum also objects as she is largely responsible for footing the bill and is asking me what she should do?
Any ideas anyone?? Do we intervene, what shall we say??
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Shall i just stand by and watch my sister marry the wrong man?
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cheekymonk · 16/08/2008 17:10
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