I'm sure this will be just another MIL gripe but I'd love your opinion anyway.
My MIL is a widow who had a very unfulfilled marriage and appears very bitter about life in general. She does have arthritis, the constant pain I'm sure contributes to her generally negative view on life.
MIL fine with me until I married dh and then things seemed to go down hill. MIL began saying very negative things about my family to me and denying this later. She made me feel very unwelcome in her home - the result of which lead to me rarely visiting. She is openly critical about me not being like her friends DIL's and has told DH that he has never lived up to what she expected as a son.
3 weeks before our first child was born she visited and told dh that he would be a useless father and had never been the same after meeting that "bXtch" (me.) At the time we tried to be understanding and thought that she was feling threatened by the new baby perhaps. Since then she has called my dd a freak of nature and "not normal" (dd's quite advanced and very tall and often won't comply with "gran".)
Ever since she has regularly thrown wobblers with DH leaving him quite low and depressed. She has threatened suicide and has alienated herself from my family and what few friends she has by being openly rude.
I used to feel quite sorry for her but these constant games are getting me down.
We have recently found out that my dear father is terminally ill and she has even managed to make this situation worse by griping about how much time we spend with him and demanding dh sees her. I'm 34 weeks pregnant and she's doing my head in.
Sometimes I question why we keep allowing her to put us through this hell. Dh keeps hoping she will change and I don't son want to perpetuate the evil DIL myth by asking him to cut contact with her.
Am I being selfish?
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flipit · 14/02/2005 20:32
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