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I kissed a girl and I liked it... Do you think DP will mind?

(76 Posts)
mamadiva Wed 13-Aug-08 23:19:10

Basically all in the title HELP!!

olympicsnotfederer Wed 13-Aug-08 23:20:07

maybe, maybe not hmm

LynetteScavo Wed 13-Aug-08 23:20:12


Mamazon Wed 13-Aug-08 23:22:09

well it depends on the kiss.

was it a "were drunk lets have a laugh" kiss or a "ooh im a bit drunk and i find you quite attractive" kiss or a "ooh we have just kissed and i dont want to stop" kinda kiss.

the first one i would say most guys would forgive. the second some guys would quite like to watch...the third....hmmmm depends on the guy in question.

mamadiva Wed 13-Aug-08 23:22:21

I don't know what to tell him!?! Should I tell him?

duke748 Wed 13-Aug-08 23:23:55

Did you like the taste of her cherry chapstick?

zippitippitoes Wed 13-Aug-08 23:25:26

it depends whether you p-lan to repeat it etc

as you liked it then maybe you will

really its the same as kissing a guy isnt it

TequilaMockinBird Wed 13-Aug-08 23:25:46


mamadiva Wed 13-Aug-08 23:26:35

Sorry Duke?

solidgoldbrass Wed 13-Aug-08 23:26:38

Depends a lot on your DP and your relationship with him. Some heterosexual people find a partner's flirtation with a same-sex OP much less of a problem than a heterosexual flirtation...

OK at the risk of getting utterly tangled up in pronouns I am going to use the ones relevatn to the OP but please bear in mind that everything I'm going to say applies ABSOLUTELY EQUALLY to women who's male partners have flirted with other men, and same sex partners who have been flirting with heterosexuality. Here are the most important questions, which the OP obviously doesn't have to answer on line but should think about.

Has the OP been wondering about her own orientation for some time, or was this just aspell of pop-culture-induced curiosity?

Does she think her orientation might have changed or be changing?

Is her relationship with her DP a very monogamous one (no flirting, no being alone with a member of the oppostie sex ever - oops that might get a bit complicated now) or a more open one or has it never been discussed?

Does she want to see the other girl again/will she be seeing the other girl again because the other girl is a friend or colleage?

What did/does the other girl think about it all?

olympicsnotfederer Wed 13-Aug-08 23:26:41

are you really some clever daft bint whose pervy savvy manager has found a niche in the pop market and is going to make a mint out of it ?

zippitippitoes Wed 13-Aug-08 23:26:43

as far as it affecting your relationship is concerned if it is just a drunken snog then no dont tell him and reign yourself in next time

VeniVidiVickiQV Wed 13-Aug-08 23:26:59

Dont make it wrong, dont make it right. Dont mean you're in love tonight.

HuwEdwards Wed 13-Aug-08 23:27:09

what do you think?

mamadiva Wed 13-Aug-08 23:28:29

Duke you are the second person to say that today. My cousin said it too I don't get it!!!

It wasn't planned it just kind of happened but TBH I think it's building up for years now it was with a very good friend and we were just dancing with each other in a club and it kind of happened!

hughjarssss Wed 13-Aug-08 23:28:49

Did you like it, are you planning on doing it again, why did you do it in the first place?

I only ask as the answers depend on whether you should tell you're DP, IMO

olympicsnotfederer Wed 13-Aug-08 23:29:07

goodness me

it didn't take long for sgb to come along with a very reasoned response

not a crap piss-take like some of the others wink (mine included)

zippitippitoes Wed 13-Aug-08 23:29:42

he might say why couldnt you have done it when i was there

VeniVidiVickiQV Wed 13-Aug-08 23:30:23

reference to katie perry?

olympicsnotfederer Wed 13-Aug-08 23:30:30

<< quickly goes to music lyric website for next line in current one-hit-wonder pop song >>

olympicsnotfederer Wed 13-Aug-08 23:31:22

lol VVV

cheesesarnie Wed 13-Aug-08 23:32:01

how do you think he'd feel?
how would you feel if it was him instead of you?

olympicsnotfederer Wed 13-Aug-08 23:33:17

its very popular to snog your female mates these days

blatant fucking man-pleasing if you ask me, by silly bints

(and perhaps you shouldn't ask me, cos I've had a wine or two wink)

zippitippitoes Wed 13-Aug-08 23:33:49

truly it depends what he and you are like

if my boyfriend kissed a guy or a girl i would be hurt

olympicsnotfederer Wed 13-Aug-08 23:35:08

I shall leave this thread, before I am hounded off this thread as being homophobic or summat...

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