I'm trying to tidy up last night after having been at work. First thing that happens is DH finishes a packet of crisps and just slings the bag on the floor and then points to it for me to pick up I picked it up to avoid an argument and then get the hoovr out and DH shouts "you can fuck off with that, I'm watching telly"
So I left the hoover in the middle of the floor and stormed out and he said I was trying to cause an argument.
I'm still a bit upset about it, I just feel like he doesn't respect me at all.
erm. he's a dick quite obviously. If he did say those words in that exact order and it was clear he wasn't joking (sometimes couples do have jokes like this) then it's totally out of order. Was this a first time thig or has he behaved like this before?
He wasn't joking, he didn't even look at me when he said it. The most annoying bit about it is that he saw me get it out, saw me faff unwinding the wire and almost hang myself bringing it into the living room and THEN says I can't use it
I'd be pissed off as hell at the slinging of the crisp bag on the floor, before you even get to the offensiveness of the pointing to it for you to pick up. That is pretty indicative of a total lack of respect for you, even without the speaking to you like crap part.
has this behaviour only just started to annoy you? If you have put up with it for a long time he might just feel like it's acceptable and it may be difficult to get through to him how much it hurts. I would say you need to be strong and talk to him about how his behaviour is making you feel.
maybe hoovering just as he was watching TV was a bit pointless but you don't deserve to be spoken to like that.
Personally if it were me I wouldn't have picked up the crisp packet.
I don't mean hang myself litrally, I just mean I really hurt myself.
He is often like this. He'll say to me "go and get me my coat" so I'll take him it and you can guarantee he'll say its the wrong one and make me go back and get his other one.
If he spills a drink he'll just shout "there's a mess on the living room floor when you get a minute" god forbid he clean it up himself.
Like this morning he was watching berenstain bears and was eating a cereal bar, picked all the raisins out of it and lined them up on the arm of the sofa before swiping them all onto the floor and telling me not to buy them again as they have raisins in. He then points to the mess and says "see? pick them up will you?" .
There's other stuff too but I'm going to stop whinging before I bore everyone. I just wanted to make sure it wasn't me being a cry baby.
"Like this morning he was watching berenstain bears and was eating a cereal bar, picked all the raisins out of it and lined them up on the arm of the sofa before swiping them all onto the floor and telling me not to buy them again as they have raisins in. He then points to the mess and says "see? pick them up will you?" .
You have to be joking. He would be fucking dead and buried in this house.
poor you. He sounds like a horrible horrible man. Do you think you could stand up to him a bit and tell him you won't accept behaviour like that anymore? Even if you can't say this to him you could demonstrate it by refusing to pick up after him?