I went to a wedding on Friday in Dublin. All my friends were there including my very bf who I have known since I was four.
We have been terribly close in the past but I have lived in the uk for the past 7 years so naturally we don't speak as much, perhaps once or twice a month and I see her at least an average of once every two months. I go home a lot.
She is married and has been trying to concieve for about 3 years. She has multiple sclerosis, not a very aggressive form but it is progressing, albeit slowly. Her dh is quite a decent sort but did have an affair before they got married. They have been together for about 12 years in total.
They were living apart at the time, she diddn't tell me until about a year ago, i was upset that she didn't confide in me at the time but they had couple councelling and resolved their issues and went ahead and had a lovely wedding.
Ok, the issue is that at the wedding (it was late, everyone was very pissed tbh) I drifted off to find my db (recently dumped by his dw), he was in a room in the hotel with some mates, I hung out there for about 20 mins.
I got a call from bf, she was screaming obscenities at me and accused me of shagging her dh, she couldn't find him either and in her drunkenness thought I was with him.
Now this woman has NEVER cursed at me before in her life, she was really ranting. I went to find her immediately and explained that I love her and had no idea that she was alone (there were about 30 of our closest friends there too, she had no reason to feel left out) and I had no idea where her dh was. she calmed down and was ok but started ranting about politics then a bit later, I had to get her to calm down again and basically manage her for the next hour or two.
Basically there are obviously loads of issues that are making her angry but I don't know what to do. She is an incredibly private person (unlike me). I don't know how to help her. If I try to talk to her, she is likely to deny that anything is wrong, but there obviously is. She is one of the sweetest human beings on the planets, I hate to see her unhappy. What do you think I can do?
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I am really worried about my BF, I think that she might be terribly unhappy, not sure what to do.
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Carmenere · 11/08/2008 21:11
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