I would be pissed off with her if I knew her. It sounds like he behaved exactly as you'd want him to - ie pushed her away, didn't do anything etc Do they have to go out togther though? Is it in a big group? Why don't you go next time?
I must add, it's not me. It's a couple that me and DP are best friends with. We have babies the same age and spend a lot of time together.
She was just some random woman in a club who had liked him previously. She is tarty but pretty and my friend feels shitty because she's just had a baby. Her DP has been with A LOT of women in the past and was a rogue but he's totally settled down since they got together.
She doesn't know what to make of it so she's been talking to me about it.
i'd be pissed off, but sounds like he did right thing and told you about it. had vaguely similar situation with my dp recently, have made it clear i don't expect him to be spending any social time with the girl in question from now on (he works iwth her unfortunately)
come on, what 'situation' ?? I bet if I went for a drink with you, or stood next to you when you were on a night out, saying "hi, how are you..", and then suddenly leaned in, I'd get pretty damn close before you managed to get your arms up to shove me off! You stand close to people, you chat, you don't expect them to leap on you! He reacted appropriately.
How did she get so close that she was able to try to kiss him??? If you know her I'd demand an answer from her as to what she was thinking and would leave her under no illusion what's coming at her if she ever dares to do anything like this again.
My nasty suspicious mind, would be wondering what her version is. If it's really as the DH told it, as she just lent in for a surprise kiss, which he pushed away, not sure why he'd be worried if his DW heard it from someone else?
If it is as he tells it, then nothing to worry about and perfectly normal for a night out. Actually, if it was just a kiss, which he initiated on a drunken night out, in front of his mates, not sure that's too much to worry about either TBH, but would be concerned if he's lying about it.
You can worry too much about these things. Unless there's any other reason to suspect him, I'd put my arms round him and tell him how very much I appreciate his honesty and loyalty, and then (circumstances permitting) go on to show I appreciated his attractiveness too .
If it was some random woman? It honestly wouldn't bother me and I'd use it as teasing ammunition for oh, the next five years or so, but I haven't recently had a baby and me and Dh have been together a very long time, so I'm definitely more complacent than a stressed out new mum.
toofriendly: "not sure why he'd be worried if his DW heard it from someone else" macdoodle: "what story would she tell...and why he's so worried what other people will say"
Jaysus - we men don't stand a chance with you women do we? If he does tell you, you get suspicious because you wonder why he's telling you first and thereby getting his version across before anyone else can, and if someone else told you first, you get suspicious because he didn't mention it. I feel sorry for your DP's, I really do.
Perhaps you might consider just accepting the fact that he told his DW so she got the truth first-hand, not some half-assed third-hand story from some drunkard who tries to put two and two together and ends up with the square root of Pi, thereby causing unnecessary hurt and worry.
Imagine how differently the thread title could have read if someone else had told the OP first: "Friend says she thinks she saw DP snogging a tart in a bar, he says she came onto him & he pushed her away, don't know what to think, I feel so hurt and betrayed"
it would worry me, I don't see how it couldn't. I would be massively pissed off with her. Do you ever socialise with her? If it were me and you do, I would summon all my courage to say something to her. Nothing nasty but just let her know what he has told you and tell her how unimpressed you are that she would be continuing to try to attach herself to someone who is happy in a relationship.
oh well saultan you are obviously new - once you have been here a while you will see from some of the stories here and maybe undertand why some of us are so cynical ...and if you search my name and read my story you will see why I am such a cynic - it will be a long long time before I ever trust a man again