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MrsSnape Fri 08-Aug-08 13:50:33

I'm so angry. I told my 'male' friend last night that I had a job interview and after congratulating me he made some underhand comment about me getting fill time pay for part time hours, unlike him who has to "slave" for 40 hours a week.

To cut a long story short it erupted into a row where he was saying stuff like "single mothers think the world owes them just because they happen to have kids...if they'd kept their legs shut they wouldn't be in this position to start with, why should the tax payer help them out". He called single parents "baby machines" and said the whole problem with Britain is that people don't work at relationships, they just break up because they know that the tax payer will provide for them shock. I asked him what, for instance, battered women should do and he said they shouldn't have kids with violent people hmm that the term domestic violence is used too readily when half the time its just the woman whinging that everything doesn't go her way. I asked about couples who have affairs, he said they should stay together and go through relate.

Apparantly if people planned properly there would be no single parents. He then went on to say that if single parents insist on being single they should get a loan rather than "tons" of tax credits to see them through until they are able to pay back their debt to society.

Half of it was so nazi'sh I actually began to wonder if he was just trying to wind me up. This is a bloke that has only ever had one serious relationship and that ended because he was an immature twat and was mean to her kids.

KatieScarlett2833 Fri 08-Aug-08 13:52:06

Time to lose this "friend", methinks. Hardly surprising that his relationship history is so bad, either.

cocolepew Fri 08-Aug-08 13:54:03

Bet he's a virgin.

scorpio1 Fri 08-Aug-08 13:55:07


rookiemater Fri 08-Aug-08 13:55:42

Nice friend, I'd be losing that telephone number quite swiftly methinks

3andnomore Fri 08-Aug-08 13:55:58

He is a Twat ,yeah...but a Nazi????....

Lauriefairycake Fri 08-Aug-08 13:56:14

even before this outburst of twattishness why were you friends with a guy who was "immature and mean to her kids"

get rid, a toss-pot of the highest order

Bluebutterfly Fri 08-Aug-08 13:57:20

Sounds like he is about 16. And has no experience of life. But alot of opinions about it. Like a 16 year old.


MrsSnape Fri 08-Aug-08 13:57:31

He's also openly racist, constantly speeds in his car and has recently been arrested for dangerous driving.

What makes me laugh is that he says he would aways be "too proud" to sign on the dole and would always ensure he paid his way....yet this is a 27 year old bloke who is STILL living at home FOR FREE with his parents and pays absolutely NOTHING towards the cost of running the house.

Twiglett Fri 08-Aug-08 13:58:58

don't see any nazism in what you're describing

nazism is 'racial purity and the superiority of so-called Aryan race'

he's not racist .. I assume his comments applied to single parents of any ethnic group

he is most definitely a TWAT though

beanieb Fri 08-Aug-08 13:59:41

Oh god - I have a friend like tis. Just tell him you pity the day he enters the real world and has a proper relationship himself, but not to worry - you'll help him pick up the pieces when life doesn't live up to his exacting standards.

he's not called Trystan is he?

Iklboo Fri 08-Aug-08 13:59:51

Jaysus! Sounds like he's spouting what mummy says when reading her Daily Mail.

Tell him he's entitled to his opinion even if it is a bag of tosh but, since you're not as forgiving as Voltaire he can go forth and multiply with himself

Bluebutterfly Fri 08-Aug-08 14:03:36

Why is he your friend at all, MrsS? I would avoid him at all costs from the picture you have painted...

MrsSnape Fri 08-Aug-08 14:04:21

twiglett, he is racist. He voted for the national front 2 years ago. He refers to muslims as "rag heads" and says he wouldn't fly with anyone that had "shit coloured skin".

His best argument was "I know I'm right, my mum and dad are still together, how do you explain that?" hmm err what??

he makes me so mad.

KatieScarlett2833 Fri 08-Aug-08 14:04:24

My MIL made similar comments once, a long time ago (yes she is a DM reader) to me and I am a lone parent adviser (FFS, know your audience, woman!). I chewed her ass off, quoted some research and destroyed her argument. She volunteers for Home Start now and has completely changed her views. There is hope.

Iklboo Fri 08-Aug-08 14:06:15

I'd tell him they're still together cos no other fecker would want them

Nasty piece of work. Kick him into touch

RedHead81 Fri 08-Aug-08 14:06:17

many cases of domestic abuse starts when the woman gets pregnant. and what about people who lose thier partners through death - they should then sue medical staff for making them a single parent. and loans would def work wouldn't they, cos lets face it - if you were given £20,000 to live for 2yrs while bringing up your baby you would want to pay it back wouldn't you - now where's the incentive to find work? and this is your friend? i hope you don't have enemies - god knows what they must be like. what a lovely person he is.

rookiemater Fri 08-Aug-08 14:06:18

I hate to say it but the more you tell us about this chap, the more I'm surprised that you actually let him in your house.

beanieb Fri 08-Aug-08 14:06:29

my friend regularly rants at me about

women in the workplace
people with a disability getting jobs only because they have a disabililtyHome births - apparently dangerous
Single mothers

everything like that, he does it to wind me up. I like him until he does these things. You just have to ignore it and refuse to be drawn into a conversation.

MrsSnape Fri 08-Aug-08 14:08:29

Well I think he has hammered the final nail in the coffin with me to be honest.

Like I said to him, it wouldn't be so bad if he'd actually had some life experience to speak of but all he's had is his mother wrapping him in cotton wool.

I think I'm just going to let him know that I want nothing more to do with him. I should have done it a long time ago.

prettyfly1 Fri 08-Aug-08 15:57:52

oh good lord and this is your friend. can i suggest you spend your time with new people.

SpandexIsMyEnemy Fri 08-Aug-08 16:01:10

bellend - tell him to get out in the real world. & walk a mile.

I don't have time for people like him - twat.

Kally Fri 08-Aug-08 17:21:32

Tell him he's tempting fate. He'll end up on the receiving end at some point in his life and have to re-think, me thinks.

GrapeJelly Fri 08-Aug-08 18:59:34

Get rid of him Mrs Snape, he's toxic, twisted and immature. I'd rather go out on my own for a drink than go out with someone like that.

2cats2many Fri 08-Aug-08 19:47:08

Nice friend.

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