I have never believed in 'the one', I think it's a weird concept, particularly as most people who do believe in it seem to magically meet 'the one' in their local pub or club! I mean, how fortunate is that?
I don't think there is only one either. It is illogical. If everyone had to find their one in the whole world, it would take too long and the human race would die out! It feels like "the one" each time you fall in love because falling in love is a chemical reaction and addiction - natures way of 'tricking' you and getting you to reproduce.
This is why if you are in a committed relationship you must be careful not to get too close to other men, even too close as friends, in case you accidentally fall in love.
See. I have friends who keep finding 'the one' but then when the shit hits the fan they give up and find a new 'one', somehow managing to forget that the old one was 'the one'. All seems rediculous to me!
I dont think it's the only route to life-lasting love and companionship. I think that it's perfectly plausable for love to grow and develop over a period of time. I certainly feel that my relationship has deepened and solidified as time has gone on, even though I knew he was the one when we started dating.
interesting. I said this to my OH the other day and he seemed pretty pissed off, but then I don't even believe he believes in it. be we shoúld treat people like they are the one while we are with them.
Nope. It's a con. The really sad thing is that it's usually the most inadequate monogamy obsessives who fall for the concept, and dump one partner after another because each time they get a commotion in their underwear they think that the new person is 'The One' and that pursuit of (or being with) The One justifies treating everyone else with complete callousness. Also, people sometimes convince themselves that an individual is The One for them when said individual actually doesn't want anything to do with them, and finds the romantic declarations not so much romantic, more like stalking and something that needs an injunction taking out. If you want a committed couple relationship, there are plenty of people out there who are (from your POV whoever you are) attractive, available and generally acceptable human beings. Whichever one is nearest when your mind/body hit that point of wanting to pairbond is the one you will get, and there is nothing wrong with that (if it's what you want).