Regular but name changed.
Pros- DH is stable, emotionally sorted in many ways, good job, faithful, great at DIY and with kids ( now grown up and at uni) Loves me.
Cons- I feel we have little in common any more, can spend all night not talking except about kids, is totally unromantic, never does any romantic gestures, crap at present buying/celebrations, he has no friends, doesn't make effort with own parents/siblings, bit of a loner.
I no longer fancy him- sex hasn't happened for years. I don't miss him when he is away. Everything he does irritates me- from how he eats to his untidiness. I feel he no longer knows me and who I am.
Divorcing would mean an end to a comfortable lifestyle, and painful for the kids.
Can you stay in a marriage being "friends" even though you feel you just don't gel on a deeper level? Am I looking for something ( which I felt I have had with ex's) that does not really exist after all these years together.
I don't want to say any more about my situation for fear of being identified, but would welcome your thoughts on what I have said.
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Would you leave your husband on this basis?
mummychangeshername · 04/08/2008 15:23
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