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how soon after meeting your DP/H did you know.....?

(119 Posts)
SpandexIsMyEnemy Mon 04-Aug-08 09:10:57

he was....

a) the one
b) you were living together
c) you were married
) you had kids.

curious, i'll go first, (with xh I mean)

a) don't think I ever did, we jsut sort of plodded.
b) pretty much right away - was working together as well v intense, moved away after 8 months for 6 months then in together properly after that
c) married after 4 years
d) DS after 6 years.

filthymindedvixen Mon 04-Aug-08 09:13:18

a) straight away! I was living with someone else unsatisfactorily, and I met Dh and fell totally in love with him. I couldn't sjhake the feeling that I was with the wrong person.
b) We waited 6 months (to move the other bloke out!) shock
c) he proposed the next year, we married the year after
d) we had been married 2 years.

posieflump Mon 04-Aug-08 09:14:11

a) the one - never blush
b) you were living together - 1 year
c) you were married - 4 years
) you had kids. - 5 and a half years

StellaWasADiver Mon 04-Aug-08 09:14:37

a) a week
b) three months
c) not happening
d) had been together almost 2 years when DS was born

disclaimer on a) - I knew I'd have children with him, and I thought he might be the person to change my mind about marriage - but not entirely sure I believe in 'the one' - he did change my mind about marriage for a while but I have changed it back again

bobblehat Mon 04-Aug-08 09:18:30

a) As soon as I saw him. Wasn't big hearts and flowers, just a feeling
b)on and off throughout uni, but offically after 5 years
c) 7 years
d) 9 years

lulumama Mon 04-Aug-08 09:19:30

a} 4 hours
b} 5 months
c} 17 months
d} we had been married 15 months

now have 2 DCs aged 8 and 3 and been together 11.5 years. having just celebrated 10 years of marriage

IdrisTheDragon Mon 04-Aug-08 09:21:10

(a) Pretty much as soon as I met him
(b) Didn't live together until we got married
(c) Got married almost 5 years after we first met
(d) DS was born just over 9 years after we first met

Ambi Mon 04-Aug-08 09:22:52

a- a few months.
b- 3 years
c- 5 years
d- 8 years

BEAUTlFUL Mon 04-Aug-08 09:24:12

a) straight away, by the end of the first date. I went home and wrote in my diary, "I've met the man I'm going to marry."

b) I wouldn't live with him before marriage

c) We got engaged 15 months after we first met, and were married 4 months after that

d) I got pregnant on honeymoon!

bogie Mon 04-Aug-08 09:28:45

a) met him in a nightclub and only saw him once after that but then go in contact with him about a year later.
b) once we were back in contact we were staying at his parents together straight away we stayed there for 3 months
c) were not married yet
d) after 3 months blush we then bought our house and moved out of his parents house.

veedub Mon 04-Aug-08 09:54:21

a) instantly (corny yes, but true)

b) 1 week

c) 7 weeks

d) 1 Year

All very rushed but best decision i ever made.

cerys Mon 04-Aug-08 09:54:24

(a) a couple of months
(b) 10 months
(c) married after 15 months
(d) pregnant with DD1 on honeymoon

We have been together 10 years now

Isabellasmam Mon 04-Aug-08 10:13:06

a)as soon as I saw him across the bar (how romantic!!! but true)
b)4 months
c)engaged after 3months but married after 3.2 years.
d) dd born 6months ago after 6.5 years

7 years in total now and v happy. grin

Isabellasmam Mon 04-Aug-08 10:14:49

veedub wow speedy!!! grin

SpandexIsMyEnemy Mon 04-Aug-08 10:16:44

veeb shock wow!

how old were you if u don't mind me asking.

I guess a lot of us like to take our time then huh? (althou I was only 17)

toolly Mon 04-Aug-08 10:57:49

a) the one - second time we met.
b) you were living together - two months
c) you were married - 7 months
d) you had kids. I got pregnant within 6 months of meeting.

Bloody hell, writing it down it looks madness but it has worked out for us. Perhaps we have been very lucky but we don't take anything for granted.

Oblomov Mon 04-Aug-08 11:11:40

a) the one - immediately
b) you were living together - immediately
c) you were married - 2years
d) you had kids - 2years

Went to rent his spare room. I knew. Knew that he was a very nice man, the kind of man I wanted. Married within a year and a half . Was 3 mths pg on wedding day.

mamadiva Mon 04-Aug-08 11:13:22

a)Had been friends for a year, liked each other started going out at 14 and decided loved each other and 7 years on we are still together.

b)2.5years

c)Neither of us are intersted in marriage yet, far too young but who knows when we are older maybe.

d)I got pregnant 4.5 years later at 18.

scorpio1 Mon 04-Aug-08 11:16:40

a - 2 years (loooong story)
b - 3 months
c - 5 years
d - got pg after 10 months (i was 19)

beanieb Mon 04-Aug-08 11:18:43

a) the one

There's no such thing as 'the one' but I knew I wanted to be with him when I made the decision to sleep with him. I wouldn't have slept with him unless I had been serious. Plus I was living with someone else so I had to sort that out first.

b) you were living together

We'd been together a year before we moved in with eachother, for 10 months of that year I had to live with my EX. About 5 weeks after I got my new house my new man moved in. It was scary and I wasn't sure it was what I wanted but he's been there every night apart from 4 since I had moved.

c) you were married

We're not

d) you had kids.

we're trying and have been for 10 months.

slavemum Mon 04-Aug-08 11:20:43

a) within first hour of meeting
b) 1 month
c) engaged in 5 months, married 1 year after that
d) first ds born 1 year 10 months after meeting, 2nd 2 years later.

10 years now (and sometimes counting every second!)grin

sherbetdipdab Mon 04-Aug-08 11:21:34

a - We worked together for 2 years before anything happened but as soon as we kissed I knew (I know, vomit!)

b - 5 months

c - Hopefully next year, we've been together for 2 years now

d - Erm, 3 months blush and next baby will be here in 3 weeks, 2 children and we've only been together 2 years blush I do love him very much

sherbetdipdab Mon 04-Aug-08 11:22:31

Oh, I mean I was pregnant after 3 months, obviously we didn't actually have kids til 9 months after that!

Bronze Mon 04-Aug-08 11:22:32

a) the one- dunno he grew on me. I knew he was special when he didn't mind that I wouldn't sleep with him but he still wanted to be with me. Of course him being so nice meant I was more likely to but he didn't know that
b) you were living together- after a year we were housemates, seperate rooms, my best friend also lived there.
c) you were married - about 3 years after we met I was 21
d) you had kids. about 10 months after that.

cyteen Mon 04-Aug-08 11:26:35

a) the one - at least 8 years grin We knew each other as acquaintances for years before ever really getting to know each other, and it took a little while after that.

b) living together - 2 or 3 years into the relationship, I think

c) married - not yet

d) kids - DS1 due in 3 weeks (we've been together about 7 years)

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