She has been in hospital for seven months and at several points we thought she would die - the doctors said to expect it. I was travelling large distances, heavily pregnant and then with a newborn, to be at her bedside. The rest of the family also went through the wringer, and my older DS was very upset about his nan being ill. The worst thing when I thought she'd die was thinking how I'd explain it to my DS1. It was all horrible.
We were so relieved that she recovered enough to come home, and continues to improve. The enforced confinement of hospital, plus being at death's door, meant that by the time she was discharged she'd been a non-smoker for over half a year. (None of the conditions that kept her in hospital were directly related to smoking but it certainly didn't help.)
I have just found out that, now she's home, she has started smoking again. She thinks I don't know as she's being secretive about it.
I am furious that, having no longer been physically addicted, she has decided to start again as far as I can see just out of the boredom of being stuck at home. How can she have so little regard for what we've been though that she can't do this one thing to try to stay alive?
What would you do? I'm so upset I feel like telling her she shouldn't see her grandchildren if she's not wanting to stay healthy to be around for them. But if I don't confront her she will at least not smoke when we're there and might generally try to smoke less.
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I am FURIOUS with my mum. What would you do?
Thinkstoomuch · 29/07/2008 21:50
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