Am I abnormal? My husband thinks so

[vannah]

Just after some quick opions here.(sorry this may seem trivial in comparison to whats happening on the boards here, but really upset to be called abnormal)
We are arguing over the fact that I am 'abnormal' because I am not really into beach holidays by the sea. Three reasons for this:

1. as a child my parents took me around everywhere each summer, we did a lot of sightseeing, and virtually no sitting around on a beach. So Im not familiar with it. Im also asian and not keen on sunbathing/tanning as my husband is.
2. My husband has a lovely habit of eyeing up anything remotely pretty and I dont feel very good about sitting on a beach with a person who makes me feel bad.

1. My youngest is 7 months old and my toddler is nearly 3, I dont like the idea of exposing them to a hot sunny beach all day.

Therefore, am I abnormal?
I should add that this comes after I refused to join my husband's sister and mother on a beach holiday - not the nicest of inlaws. The three of them are quite heated up over my refusing a beach holiday using the very genuine excuse that we are saving up this year.

thanks in advance for your opions...

[pinkspottywellies]

God no. You sound perfectly sensible.

My family never did beach holidays and while I don't mind that kind of holiday I certainly wouldn't make the effort to arrange it with small children in tow and a arsehole dh who would no doubt be too busy eyeing up the totty to help with the children!

[PootyApplewater]

Of course you're not abnormal.

Who would want to holiday anywhere with unpleasant inlaws, and a DH with a roving eye so bad that it makes you feel bad.

Your DH should want a family holiday somewhere where all of you will have fun.

Let DH go with his sister and mother, and you take the children somewhere nice - or just enjoy a few days at home together.

[AbbeyA]

You are perfectly normal. I can't sit in the sun so am not keen on hot beaches.

[Psychomum5]

nooooo.....not abnormal at all.

I also do not like beachy holdays, and DH says similar about me, but the difference is that he says it in a joking loving way rather than to make me feel bad over it.

I hate sand TBH, gets everywhere and you take half the beach home, and me with my very pale skin also gets burnt!

I do go to the beach more tho now that the children are older as I no longer have to watch them so much (well, we tend to only go with DH and he does a fab job of beach games while I hide in the sun tent and read), and they can help carry all the supplies we tned to need.

you need to find some compromise, and say that once the children are older you will venture more to the beach with them, but when they are this tiny it is no fun for anyone.

[RuthT]

I can see why they suggested a beach hol as toddlers generally love them. Me cab't bear them unless single and can stay in shade and read all day.

I think I would go on one if company was good. Clearly not the case here!

[gagarin]

Not at all! My family are very fair skinned so beach holidays are ridiculous for many of them.

My brother also hates the feel of sand so stands up on the beach all day sighing.

You are not abnormal.

[mylovelymonster]

You are not abnormal at all. Some like beach holidays, some don't. I don't, but I don't mind spending an hour or so at the beach but would rather be doing lots of other stuff, and with young children I'd rather have a home-base with a pool and go to the beach early morning / late afternoon with the LOs for a play & a paddle.

[llareggub]

Frankly I think you are perfectly normal.

I am the same, although we do like a trip to the seaside on a sunny, warm but not hot day. My DS loves playing on the beach.

[mrsleroyjethrogibbs]

nope not normal. as a fellow asian married to a british hubby i can understand the need not to want a 'extra' tan. TBH my dh is not that intrested in beach hols, but he shouldnt make you feel bad either way. HOpe you sort it out

[vannah]

many thanks for these replies, I feel instantly happier and definately sane.

[hatwoman]

It's abnormal not to be able to understand that not everyone likes beach holidays.

[booge]

Not abnormal at all, but we've just had a day on the beach in North Devon with our 3 and nearly 2 dc and they had such a lovely time building sand castles and playing in the shallow waves. How about a daytrip?

[mylovelymonster]

I don't think I know anyone that goes on holiday just to sit on the beach, come to think of it.........

I did know someone when I was younger who went on a two week beach holiday....came back looking 10 years older/leathered

[MatNanPlus]

Not abnormal at all IMO.

I don't do more than a days lying on a beach, not for me, gritty, boring, noisy.

surely the idea of saving is to cut expenditure not splurge?

[ConstanceWearing]

XH used to pose on beach, like:

"hey girls - have you seen me? Have you checked me out?"

whilst I chased 6 small children in different directions over a mile or so of sand.

So you have my every sympathy, and if you enjoyed this, quite honestly, then you'd be abnormal.

[mylovelymonster]

Oh Constance. What a jerk!! Did he wear an attractive posing thong?

[Anglepoise]

Nope, hot beaches are boring and unpleasant.

Can you not do something else during the day though?

[stitch]

a beach holiday is my idea of a nightmare

[edam]

You are not abnormal. But you are far too forgiving - why are you putting up with a man who insults you and eyes up other women in front of you?

[ProfYaffle]

Ugh, I hate hate hate beach holidays. Can just about tolerate a day trip for the sake of the dc's so long as we have sun tent and factor 40. Most of my friends feel the same. You are not abnormal.

[Elasticwoman]

Beach holiday with young dc is v hard work. Any holiday with another family, even siblings or in-laws - even more stressful.

Stick to your guns.

[themoon66]

You need to pick the 'right' beach and your DH needs to keep the LOs safe and amused so you can just lie there and read books

THAT is the secret of a good day at the beach.

[PortAndLemon]

I don't like beach holidays in general. I burn easily, am allergic to uv light, and find that sand gets everywhere. We did find a nice beach for a couple of days on honeymoon, but in general -- nope.

[bubblepop]

ooh no,your definately not 'abnormal'. Im not keen on beaches myself as im pale skinned and tend to burn easily..I will force myself to go to the beach for a couple of hours if the rest of the family want to..but after while find im quite bored..the kids have got sand in their eyes/bums,they usually need the toilet and there is'nt one (you get the picture)..still it sounds as if your dh is annoyed with you for not wanting to do what he wants..is there no compromise?

[moulesfrites]

You are not abnormal. I too dislike beach holidays - I go a ridiculoulsy angry shade of red at the first sight of sunshine, so spend the whole time trying to find shade or applying factor 50 and then being all sticky. Sand gets in your sandwiches etc etc...have never understood the appeal myself. Stick to your guns.