My DH had an affair 3 years ago. We are still together and are now very happy. My husband had turned into the most loving man, who is so happy we are still together. He supports me and loves me and I am happy to say he is a muched improved man because of the experience.
Anyway, When it happened my world was blown apart. The pain will never completly go away and I have come to terms with it. I talked on Mumsnet lots at the time and it was heaven sent.
Everyone knew about the affair because the o.w husband choose to tell the world.They were are next door niegbours. We had lots of the same friends. I felt so ashamed and had to hold my head high, even though it wasn't my fault. This was so, so difficult. I lost my home. I had been through hell and back.
There was one friend who I lent on through the whole thing.She was there through it all and was so supportive. She helped me sell the house, pack boxes or just held me when I cried.
3 Years on I am feeling much stronger - most of the time. I have a job, study and my life is not consumed by the pain all the time.
The problem is now this friend uses every opertunity to bring it up. I mean everytime we meet, she will crack a joke or have a dig.
Last night she was very spiteful. She said oh let me come around and flirt with your Dh. Everyone else has had him. Then she said Oh I shouldn't have said that should I dear, dear. This was said in a really patronising way.
I came home and had a row with DH and cried and cried. I feel so low.
I don't know why I am even writing this t.b.h. Thanks for reading to the end.
I think I just need shoulder to cry on right now. I am so hurt and don't understand why she would do that to me.
Sorry for long post
Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody
Relationships
My friend keeps reminding me of my DH's affair and I am deversated
overdraft · 25/07/2008 11:57
Don’t want to miss threads like this?
Weekly
Sign up to our weekly round up and get all the best threads sent straight to your inbox!
Log in to update your newsletter preferences.
You've subscribed!
To comment on this thread you need to create a Mumsnet account.