We've been together for 4 years and have 5mo DD. Relationship appears to be going from strength to strength & we're in love & happy. At my brother's wedding on Saturday he asked me if I'd like to get married (I.e. - not exactly a proposal!) I said yes and we've been chatting about it in a fairly abstract way since then - agreeing we'd like to get married in Winter 2009. No engagement ring (which I'm fine about in itself, but therefore there's no reason to tell anyone until we actually set a date & book the venue!). I'm a total control freak & I feel a bit in limbo about it all. I want to motor ahead and check out venues etc & he's showing a pretty laissez faire attitude (a royal pain in the arse as I think a perfect place for the "do" would be his old college & he needs to pick up the phone to make this happen!). This feels like a total non-event when I think it should feel like a huge deal. I feel quite excited but am not sure why & I don't feel able to tell anyone to share the happiness. Help me please - I worry I am turning into Bridezilla & I am not quite sure how I'm supposed to feel?!
Give yourself (and him) a chance - you only just got engaged. Why not concentrate on getting a ring (doesn't have to be fantastically expensive if money is an issue) so that you can tell people you are engaged and take it from there?
If you are a control frreak, then you're feeling like this because nothing's happening yet. Give yourselves a week or two to get used to the idea then start organising. Once you get into the swing of that you'll be fired with enthusiasm I bet!