My friend is having a 40th birthday party & she is a neighbour of my parents, so she has invited them to the party. They have another night out planned, but mum said they may pop in after if the party is still going on. I will be at the party with my DP, who as you may know, my dad doesn't like hearing any mention of & has not yet met. We have been together 11 months, but dad feels his loyalty must remain with my ex.
Don't know if mum will get dad round, or even if he knows we will be there. Feeling very worried!
Hope he isn't rude, PC, but, remember that, if he is, he is only showing himself up, not your dp. As long as you and dp are happy and show a united front, there's not a lot your dad can do without appearing to be incredibly rude.
I think it would be easier on all parties if they were to meet for the first time on neutral territory. Taking dp to her dad's house puts dad in the more powerful position and, given his views on PC's new relationship, that's not desirable.
Saw mum today & it appears that there was no chance of dad meeting DP on Sat night as dad wouldn't go round to my friend's house. My mum tried to pop in, but dad wouldn't. Mum says he might take quite a while to come round as he is still concerned about offending ex H in anyway.