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who hs the greater sex drive, you or dh/dp

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maltesers Sun 06-Feb-05 20:24:45

anyone out there who has loads more sex drive than their other half ? what do you do? am feeling somewhat unloved although he says he does fancy me. know that i am slim and attractive, its not like i am ugly or overweight. dp understands that the problem lies with him and gets very defensive bout whole thing. it is so frustrating in more ways than one.think if i could get my hands on some Viagra would pop some in his tea !

KristinaM Sun 06-Feb-05 20:25:32

I sulk or eat chocolate

Frizbe Sun 06-Feb-05 20:25:47

I think it tends to vary with week its me up for it, the next him! depends on dd's sleep patterns.....

doggiewalker Sun 06-Feb-05 20:32:49

He's an every night man! but I'm not quite up for it that much! 2-3 times a week OK for me, but when I'm ovulating I get much sexier!

Titania Sun 06-Feb-05 20:35:39

um....dh definatley got the higher drive.....though i think he is sick of the bathroom lol....not done it since august

pinkdiamond Sun 06-Feb-05 20:41:58

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maltesers Sun 06-Feb-05 20:43:54

OMG not since august. have you had a babe since August Titania ? I am a 2-3 times a week person. dp is bout one a month. there is seriously something wrong with him. any other dp/dh who doesnt want much sex ? there is one plus when youre with a man like that they are not chasing other women on the side. i trust him in that capacity, he just isnt interested in sh...g other women ! !

northstar Sun 06-Feb-05 20:45:23

Dp and i are perfectly matched. Neither of us mind going one day without, but the following day one of us will be reminding the other one that it's time iykwim. And (if) after 2 days - we will both be making sure it doesnt go that long again.
We are still in early stages though - year and a half, but i really plan NOT to let it slip sorry if tmi

munnzieb Sun 06-Feb-05 21:01:31

normally it's DH - but since we've been TTC, it's fairly equal!

pinkdiamond Sun 06-Feb-05 21:10:04

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SPARKLER1 Sun 06-Feb-05 21:14:44

Definitely dh at the moment. Am suffering with depression and I'm sure that's not helping things on my side. Fancy dh loads but by the time I get dds to bed I'm usually shattered and just want to be left alone.

maltesers Mon 07-Feb-05 12:38:03

what does TTC mean ?

Joolstoo Mon 07-Feb-05 12:39:48

trying to conceive

galaxy Mon 07-Feb-05 12:41:12

dh would have it twice a day if he could but tends to be every other day and that's an effort for me, apart from when I'm ovulating when I feel very horny

bonkerz Mon 07-Feb-05 12:43:20

I have a bigger sex drive than my dh. He says i couldnt live without sex and its true! Would porbably only be happy with 3 tomes a day but it aint gonna happen so have learnt to live with 3 X a week!!!! DH says i nag him (i do but dont tell him i admitted it!) Have always been the same!

I tend to sulk and then eat chocolate!!!

Joolstoo Mon 07-Feb-05 12:44:08


noddyholder Mon 07-Feb-05 12:44:30

definitely dp although I have my moments

Nikkichik Mon 07-Feb-05 12:46:56

dh definitely - he's a night time guy and I'm usually too knackered. I'm not averse to a little afternoon delight though - will be very sad when dd stops her afternoon naps!

suzywong Mon 07-Feb-05 12:47:09

although in recent years it seems to be pretty even, I just think dh has a greater sense of decorum and proprietry.

I always take it very personally if he's not up for it

Titania Mon 07-Feb-05 12:49:05 was born last feb! lol.

maltesers Mon 07-Feb-05 13:47:51

bonkerz how lucky you are ! would like sex three times a week but have to contend with once a month. it gets me down and am straying. GUILT. GUILT !

lou33 Mon 07-Feb-05 13:50:41


pinkroses Mon 07-Feb-05 17:08:12

neither......when I want it, dh doesn't and vice versa!!!!!

He likes it in the morning and I like it in the evening. We are completely out of sinc with sex happens between us very often.

maltesers Tue 08-Feb-05 10:57:45

do you think my dp needs pro help. he has very little sex drive and he is 36. am dying for more passion. only have a bonk once a month. 2-3 times a week would be great. trouble is last dp years back was a rabbit,anytime, anywhere, a bit like me. whenever i talk to him bout his problem he just gets really cross and we end up arguing. how can i get him to seek help. H E L P.

pinkroses Tue 08-Feb-05 14:29:04

My dh just treats me like I'm being used for sex. He will push for it, then when he gets it....he treats me like crap until he wants it again. He has a low sex drive, and I have tried to get him to talk about it, but he won't!!!

Bloody men....are there any good ones out there????

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