He's had his hair cut (OK, I cut it) and last night in the subdued lighting of our bedroom, I pretendedhewassomeoneelse with the same hairstyle. I'm not saying who, or you will all guess who I am, and (duh!) I namechanged to be anonymous, but it's no-one I know personally.
Is it really, really bad that I actually enjoyed it for the first time by doing that?
lol at you lot trying to work out who it is. Seriously, if I say, my anonymity will disappear in a flash. Not sure why that matters on MN, but for some reason, this just embarrasses the hell out of me. Not because he's an embarrassing person to fancy, but because I feel like the saddest woman in the world for pretending I was shagging him while with Dh.
(Daniel Craig looks like a potato. Him and Wayne Rooney, in a spud-sack. erk.)
I just think he'd be mortified if he ever knew (and he so isn't going to, obviously). I've been operating for the last 8 years on the presumption that a good sex life means focusing on the other person properly, and I've always found myself wanting to get it over with as soon as.
(lol about the hair gel, I should have been more careful to not giving clues. Not giving anymore )
A bit of a dissenting voice here but I don't do it, although I do agree that probably lots of people do.
Firstly, I'd just giggle because at some point my imagination would let me down and then there would be the horrible shock of 'changing' partners mid-shag which would be too much for my libido to cope with.
Secondly, I'd be really unhappy if he did that to me. He assures me he doesn't. (He could not be telling the truth, of course.
Having said that, perhaps you could morph the fantasy and the reality together over a period time, and rejuvenate your sex life ... I do think sex is mostly about what is going on in your head.