I name changed as this is not something I would normanlly discuss.
The problem is that I get frustrated with dh's "technique" (for want of a better word) in bed. He seems completely incapable of doing anything in sync - if he is kissing me he pays no attention to what I'm doing with my mouth, for example, and if I try to keep up and follow him it ends up like kissing a washing machine on spin cycle.
He seems to jump all over the place, leaping from one thing to another without spending any time on one thing so that it actually becomes pleasurable. I don't want to hurt him and I've tried saying things like "that's nice/I love it when you do that" but he will immediately go harder/faster on hearing any words of encouragement.
I've tried to slow him down, taking his face in my hands and kissing him slowly, for example, but it doesn't really work - I avoid kissing altogether now and I miss the intimacy of it
I remember it being better at the beginning of our relationship (though we were each other's first partners so maybe it was just inexperience)
it sometimes feels like romping with an over eager labrador puppy
feeling quite frustrated - any ideas
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when you don't "click" with dh in bed
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happyhomemaker · 17/07/2008 17:26
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