When he started drug dealing big time and we had kilos of weed stinking up the house and odd characters calling round all times of day and night. Oh, and DS would wimper and cling on to me whenever he was at home (which wasn't often).
I am glad I made him leave while I still had enough regard for him to allow him to visit the children. because he does visit them, and they get a lot from it. I do think it is better to split before the relationship deteriorates beyond that point.
no violence, i just wasn't in love with him anymore(after the split it became apparent he didn't love me either). We'd reached a point that no matter what we did, or how hard we tried we just couldn't make each other happy. I was the one who 'ended it'.......get on well now and have equal time with ds.
LS yes he did at first, and was a sahd for a while, but towards the end he was so fucked up on coke and weed and in such a mess with money that he was horrible, moody, violent andspend very little time at home alone with us. There where always loads of other people around, mostly his customers so DS didn't really know him and had witnessed his violent outbursts
The realisation that if I stayed, we'd be having exactly hte same conversation 10 years down the line, but I'd be 10 years angrier, 10 years poorer, 10 years more disappointed and 10 years more bitter and angry with myself for not having done it 10 years ago. And my DC's would have grown up in a house full of anger and tension.