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What's an acceptable age gap??

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essbee Fri 04-Feb-05 16:30:54

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milliways Fri 04-Feb-05 16:32:19

My SIL is 38 & her DH is 62, kids aged 8&7. They are happy.

Gwenick Fri 04-Feb-05 16:32:20

between children or between adults?

essbee Fri 04-Feb-05 16:33:08

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Gwenick Fri 04-Feb-05 16:34:13

there's 5yrs between DH and I - have a friend though who has 24yrs between her and her DH - she's very happy.

essbee Fri 04-Feb-05 16:35:38

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Titania Fri 04-Feb-05 16:37:20

theres 18 years between my mum and her other half.....been together 15 years so far

twiceTK Fri 04-Feb-05 16:42:11

I think that is up to you ... Between me and my DH is over 20 years gap but we never see it as a gap ourselves. I don't care what other people talk about us ... people always talks no matter what anyway. We are absolutely happy ... that's matter.

MrsBigD Fri 04-Feb-05 16:43:27

well I think as long as everybody is happy... age doesn't matter.

My dad is a funny one that way... when he was 39 he had a 29 year old gf, when he was 49 he had a 29 year old gf, when he wad 59 he had a 29 year old gf... get the picture?

I've learned to 'live' with it... he's gotta live with them not me ;)

dh is my toyboy of 6 days

lou33 Fri 04-Feb-05 16:44:33


lou33 Fri 04-Feb-05 16:45:09

i would prefer 18 years younger to 18 years older than me myself

essbee Fri 04-Feb-05 16:45:58

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lou33 Fri 04-Feb-05 16:54:38

keep forgetting you are a youthful thing

SoupDragon Fri 04-Feb-05 17:02:32

you could always lie about his age.

essbee Fri 04-Feb-05 17:53:00

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pooka Fri 04-Feb-05 18:51:10

My great uncle is 90. His wife is 58. They met after he had separated with his then wife, because she was a school friend of his daughter. Married when he was 82 and she was 50, after his first wife died (they didn't want to rock the boat as she was a manic depressive). Very happy together, but has obviously been a companionship, deep respect thing rather than a red-hot passion for many years, probably since he was in his early 70's. He's quite a remarkable bloke, very charismatic, and his moblity and health has only been compromised in the last 5 years really, and obviously she has a carer role as well as a wifely one now.
Anyway - I think it's fabulous that they have been together for so long (not sure entirely how long, but at least 35 years plus)

InMyShoes Fri 04-Feb-05 18:52:58

doesn't matter. 18 years is nothing if you're both happy

kama Sat 05-Feb-05 22:41:16

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biglips Sat 05-Feb-05 22:56:43

when i was 21, i was seeing a 45 yrs old man ans he was older than my parents !! (i couldnt stop laughing about it)

essbee Sat 05-Feb-05 23:49:38

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CarrieG Sat 05-Feb-05 23:58:41

An ex colleague (& good mate) of mine is in his 60s, & has a dp of my age (early 30s). Apparently it was a bit weird meeting the 'in-laws' as they're younger than him, but otherwise they are very happy.

It probably helps that she's a quiet, 'surrendered wife' (ugh) type though tbh - I've known my friend 15 years, he's always had younger laydeez in tow (believe I was on his 'to do' list at one point...), & I suspect it's only a long term relationship because he's consciously putting his hell-raising days behind him, iyswim. But it does semm to work for them, which is the main thing...

cornfield Sun 06-Feb-05 00:02:18

tbh age does not matter so much as the companionship/respect the couple in question have for each other...think it is only something you can look at individually...18 years might seem like a lot to some people but if you get on, share similar interests, have same sense of humour and fancy each other then it doesn't matter...personally think older men have something younger don't have (money no maturity, interesting things to say a lot) so enjoy....have you got a new man essbee, if you don't mind me asking?

essbee Sun 06-Feb-05 00:07:56

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jabberwocky Sun 06-Feb-05 00:19:55

16 1/2 between me and dh. It has never been a problem and I am still thrilled that I married him.

jojo38 Sun 06-Feb-05 00:45:06

I am nearly 11yrs younger than my dh. He's the lucky one!

I do find I am noticing his "age" more these days but I do think it is more of an excuse for him. Most of the time I think I have another child in the house!! Other times, he is like an old codger! (Don't tell him I told you).

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