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Does anyone know of a refuge for Asian women escaping domsetic violence in West Yorkshire

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assdoc Fri 11-Jul-08 16:58:22

Trying to put together a "lifeline" for a friend of my Mum. She is living in a very abusive relationship with her children. She is badly in need of help and advice on how to break free from her husband.

FluffyMummy123 Fri 11-Jul-08 16:59:48

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misdee Fri 11-Jul-08 17:01:03

if she contacts women aid they will be able to help.

even if i knew of a refuge, then i wouldnt be able to tell you about it, due to how protective they are of where they are, they are safe places afterall.

Califrau Fri 11-Jul-08 17:04:04

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avenanap Fri 11-Jul-08 17:04:10 This one is not too far away.

edam Fri 11-Jul-08 17:04:38

Try Women's Aid and Refuge. If she wants something targetted at Asian women, they might know. Or she could try calling Southall Black Sisters and see if they are aware of any groups in W Yorks.

LadyMuck Fri 11-Jul-08 17:04:49

Womens Aid 0808 2000 247.

She can talk to them in complete confidentiality, and they can outline all her options. Obviously no-one shoud give you details of what is available over the net, as these are refuges. However there are refuges with plenty of experience of helping Asian families in that area.

assdoc Fri 11-Jul-08 17:09:18

Because she's Asian Codhmm??

assdoc Fri 11-Jul-08 17:11:23

Thank you.

Dynamicnanny Fri 11-Jul-08 17:13:31

But Assdoc - I wouldn't see her ethnicity as a decerning factor.

assdoc Fri 11-Jul-08 17:22:42

It is very much a discerning factor. She comes from a culture where domestic violence is often tolerated and accepted by her peers and elders. She has found it very difficult to ask for help and has rejected other suggestions, preferring to seek help from an agency with a good insight into her culture.

LadyMuck Fri 11-Jul-08 17:23:22

Dynamicnanny, there may be langaugae issues, esp for any young children, and of course there is a much higher likelihood of an arranged marriage within the Asian community which can also lead to the woman being disowned by her own family if she tries to leave the marriage. In those cases women may feel exceedingly isolated and the fact that they can be with women of similar background can be of greater comfort.

edam Fri 11-Jul-08 17:24:41

that's why Southall Black Sisters or Ashiana might be helpful, Assdoc.

avenanap Fri 11-Jul-08 17:25:29

These women are often threatened with death if they leave because of domestic violence. There are women murdered in the UK because they have sought help. An asian womens refuge will now all this and will be able to give her and her children the support that they need.

assdoc Fri 11-Jul-08 17:25:58

Thank you Lady Muck, couldn't have said it better myself.

FluffyMummy123 Fri 11-Jul-08 17:26:38

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lulumama Fri 11-Jul-08 17:27:49

why not? the underlying cultural issues may well complicate things, as ladymuck as so eloquently described

FluffyMummy123 Fri 11-Jul-08 17:28:23

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assdoc Fri 11-Jul-08 17:33:28

I asked for help for a desperate woman and her children who are in danger. To those who offered help, many thanks. To those trying to kick off a racist fight, sod off and find someone else to wind up.

LadyMuck Fri 11-Jul-08 17:33:50

The ones that I am aware of are open to non-Asian women, but are designed to cater for the specific needs of Asian women (some of them who have been brought over to the UK not speaking a word of Asian and then subjected to horrific sexual and physical abuse). Refuges will accept any women in need provided they agree to keep to the refuge's rules. But in certain parts of the country, West Yorkshire in particular, there is a significant need amongst certain ethnic groups, and hence there are now refuges which "specialise" which includes having workers who speak different languages for example.

LadyMuck Fri 11-Jul-08 17:34:28

Sorry, should be "not speaking a word of English".

smallwhitecat Fri 11-Jul-08 17:34:30

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dittany Fri 11-Jul-08 17:34:36

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FluffyMummy123 Fri 11-Jul-08 17:37:31

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LadyMuck Fri 11-Jul-08 17:39:34

It is not segregation! It is a matter of certain refuges having features to assist a particular group of clients. There are also specialised refuges for Jewish women, black women, lesbians, Turkish Cypriot women and Moroccan women.

Actually it is really difficult to ensure that vulnerable people in some ethnic groups are aware that there could be support out there.

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