My husband told me out of the blue that he no longer felt like he was in love with me and wanted out of our marriage, that things had changed and he feels that he cannot do anything about it as it was too late. We have been together 12 years and have two kids. I said all along that there was something he wasn't telling me that it didn't add up? He left me at the end of may and swore blind there was no one else involved and that he was just being honest about his feelings, and somehow managed to put a lot of the blame on me. This left me with a lot of unanswered questions and insecurities.
We have spoken repeatedly over the weeks since and I have asked him to reconsider and try relate etc to see if we could resolve things, but every time he insists that he can't do it. He has been asked many times by many people whether there was anyone else and each time has insisted there wasn't.
I found out a couple of days ago that he is now seeing someone else, he says that he has only been seeing her for the last three weeks! and has only known her for a couple of months, she was supporting him when he needed someone to talk to.
Am I a complete mug, I feel like he is still lying and that something happened with this girl before we split up and that this is the real cause for why he is so unwilling to try and resolve things with me. He has been working away during the week for the last six months and so I have no way of knowing what the hell he has been up to, but I know his attitude tyowards me and the kids changed dramatically during the course of May, which is when I suspect that something first happened with this girl.
We will be speaking on sunday and I have told him that I want the truth about everything, as I really believe he owes us that much.
I don't know whether I could trust him again and am finding all his lies hard to deal with but I still have to see him because of the children. I really am feeling screwed up at the moment and struggling to hold it together, it is only the children that seem to be keeping me afloat at the moment. I just need some straight answers as he has let me believe I was to blame.
Please help I need to find a way through all this.
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My head is in a mess and need help!!! Sorry it's a long one
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Kosks · 11/07/2008 11:50
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