Hi...This might be the wrong place to bring this up cos I'm not actually a 'real' mum... but my partner of 5 years has a child who is now 8 years old and who lives with him all the time. I lived with them both for 2 years, and jointly took care of the child. Needless to say this was a big shock for me, never having had any experience of children.
We have had a really bad time lately and I moved out. One major problem which seems insoluble is that he says he absolutely doesn't want any more kids since he has given up so much of his freedom and to be frank he resents this. I am not at all desperate for children, but I'm not prepared to rule out having some in the future.
We feel like we'll have to split up over this and its putting a big strain on us. This is on top of the fact that I feel totally alone with all the problems of trying to build a relationship when there's never enough time/space etc...
I don't know any one who is a stepparent and I feel my partner doesn't appreciate the effort involved and can't talk about any negative feelings... Please, please is there anyone out there who is in a similar situation or has got through something like this???
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Zaha · 26/03/2001 14:08
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