Do you think MN needs an Abuse section?

[bearmama]

Or should it all stay in relationships?
There seems to be a lot of MNers with controlling/abusive partners, and those seeking advice on whether their partner is acting abusively.
What do you think?

[S1ur]

No. Often people just need to talk about their relationships and aren't ready to face or aren't aware of the abusive elements of that relationship.

I think it would take too much for some to take the step to post in a section called abuse or dv or whatever.

[colditz]

Nope.

because people seeking advice are never being abused, and for 100 posters telling them they are, they will have 100 reasons why they aren't.

[slim22]

nope.
too intimidating as said above.
And also lot less likely to get spontaneous replies.

[onlyjoking9329]

no, for all the reasons already mentioned.

[bearmama]

Good points. Question answered. Thank you. I asked because when I was going through DV years ago I was directed to a website and there was an abuse section. However I had begun to accept at that point it was DV - agree that people may not be willing to.

[FluffyMummy123]

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[slim22]

Good point about useful numbers rubyrioja

[S1ur]

There is a web guide page. There could be more obvious links to dv helpines in there perhaps.

(See link at top of mental health topics)

[Alambil]

a google of "domestic violence helpline" brings Women's Aid second; that's not too tricky but you have to do it in teh first place; if you don't accept it's DV, I doubt you'd google it.

Most of those threads have people linking and writing the phone contact number anyway so may not be totally necessary?

[finallydoneit]

hey guys, just saw this and wanted to say hello and i agree with what you have all said

[Monkeytrousers]

No - who would go there? Seriously, think about it.

[Pinkchampagne]

Finallydoneit - so pleased to see your name - have been worried about you! Text the other week, but didn't get a reply, so wasn't sure whether it was safe to text again. How are you?

[finallydoneit]

hey . i am ok, have changed my number, can you get on msn?
its ok here but it gets very hard living with so many people at times. ds is ok and i suppose its not gonna be for ever

[davidtennantsmistress]

no it wasn't until after I was outside of the situation, I truly realised and had it thrusted upon me (by my parents) what was/had actually happened, and it wasn't normal, and it wasn't ok, and I did have a choice etc.

so for that reason a list of places to go etc will be helpful.

until someone's ready to accept and face up to it they won't believe it's DV/an abusive relationship.