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dh doesn't want to leave the house...

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sasa15 Wed 09-Jul-08 17:37:32

marriage is finish...we are getting paper ready...for divorce......
one minute say he will sign one minute say no...

anyway...rows continuosely in front of ds 4years old...
he still haven't found an house...
he doesn't seem to understand that it's worst and painful stay in the same house...we are renting........

law is mother and son stay in the house...
I don't want to kick him out....

but it's no CIVIL ANYMORE...we hate each other,,,

few sane words I can say to him,,,suggest please

sasa15 Wed 09-Jul-08 17:42:06


PeaMcLean Wed 09-Jul-08 17:48:00

Very tricky. No suggestions here sorry, but didn't want you to think no one's thinking hard about this one...

Sounds like he hasn't accepted it's actually happening.

LIZS Wed 09-Jul-08 17:49:20

I don't think it is the law that says you need stay put unless you own in which case it is in your best interest to do so. Have you been to CAB or solicitor for advice ?

TheHedgeWitch Wed 09-Jul-08 17:50:08

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lulumama Wed 09-Jul-08 17:50:24

if the house is in joint names he is legally entitled to stay ?

let your solicitor try to sort it out

why don;t you take your son and leave?

sasa15 Wed 09-Jul-08 17:53:32

ds he's happy in the's a bit shocking to do that..........

he said he will leave...and then he didn't...

I don't want to kick him out...he doesn't deserve...really...

we have been 9 years together...I want everything amicable.......

LIZS Wed 09-Jul-08 17:56:09

It won't be amicable, after all isn't there someone else involved. He has as much right to stay as you if hte tenacny is joint. You said on another thread you don't like the idea of your ds seeing you with the other man there, so perhaps a fresh start would be better.

lulumama Wed 09-Jul-08 17:57:20

have you been seeing someone else, or am i thinking of someone else? if so, am not surprised your DH is not being amicable

you need to let the lawyers deal with it if you cannot do this together

sasa15 Wed 09-Jul-08 17:59:50

will speak to the lawyer

bubblagirl Wed 09-Jul-08 18:08:19

Rented Property (Private)
Ultimately, it will be the landlord who will decide whether or not one of you can stay in the property should you divorce. Usually, providing the person staying can meet the rental payments, a landlord would probably see no reason why they should move out. However, others have strict rules about not letting single parents or those on benefits rent houses from them and although that may seem discriminatory, they have the right to choose who they want to rent their houses to so it’s important that you discuss these issues with them.

sasa15 Thu 10-Jul-08 16:04:45

where can I read about couple that had divorce with ds same age 4years old...

What to say to them?---dh now is looking for an house

what to say and how to explain dad is going to sleep in another house...

and why?

and some other questions that can come to follow........

sasa15 Thu 10-Jul-08 16:15:51


sasa15 Thu 10-Jul-08 16:22:59

where can I find a thread about divorce or people separated or separating........

parenting or relationship

LIZS Thu 10-Jul-08 16:47:54

try looking under Lone Parents

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