Almost every time I go and see her, she drops racist comments into the conversation...most along the line of- 'nice place but too many coloureds' etc
DH had told me her parents were ignorant and racist when we met (been together for 11 years, married for 6)and in fact he has no contact with them for many reasons. She is monumentally sensitive and bears grudges forever so she's very hard to be honest with (this is why DH doesn't see her- they fell out after he tried to have a heart to heart about past issues.
I take the kids up to see her about once a fortnight and so far have either ignored her comments, have reasoned a bit 'maybe you didn't like her/him because you weren't used to their accent...' (pathetic I know) and have pointed out that I am not racist and mentioned my best friend's partner is black and they have a child together who is like a nephew to me.
She just says- 'oh I'm not racist either, I don't mind chinese people...but did I mention that another polish family moved in down the road tuttuttut'
aaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaaargh!
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MrsMacaroon · 09/07/2008 14:13
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